Recent content by onceaking

I would consider that to be porn.

What does 'impure hearts' even mean? It seems to me it means sexual desire and unless you're asexual, you will have it. It's like saying you have impure hearts if you breathe because sexual desire is just as natural as breathing.

There will always be women you find attractive. The only way to avoid it, probably, is to become a literal monk. One member on here actually did that, and he quickly discovered he couldn't cope with the monastic life. As for the social media part, I would say be more purposeful with your use of...

I know people don't like dating apps here, but at least with them, you tend to get an idea of what people want. There's been times when I've started to like a girl, and it turns into some sort of game where I'm trying to figure out if they like me. Usually people are straight to the point in the...

Well, I know some things about relationships. Like I said, I've worked with a number of couples and it can cause extra problems. Some couples work well together, but others don't. The question everyone who get in a relationship with a work college should ask is how will they respond to conflict...

Let me start off by saying I'm no expert on this issue or a therapist, so feel free to reject or accept what I have to say. Sounds like your Mother has had a tough life, and she has my sympathy. I sometimes see single mothers on dating app and want to give them a chance, but I don't feel like...

And even if she doesn't, what is going to happen when they have an argument? I worked with this one couple and the wife would go into her husband's private office to have a fight with him. When that happened, they would yell at each other and everyone in the office could hear them. Sometimes...

For a long time, I thought I wasn't good enough for women because I looked porn, so I didn't even bother dating. I think purity culture contributed to that sort of mindset as well. Now, whenever I look at a dating profile, I look for hints that they would accept me if I every told them about my...

First post here. I planned to only start posting once I had read The Righteous Mind and Deep Work. I thought it would have taken me the first few weeks of 2024 since I didn't have long to go, but I didn't finish them until a few days ago. A big part of me not reading was looking at porn. After...

I've just started reading it. He seems to focus on all aspect of life, not just work (like Deep Work does). Thanks for recommending it.

Freya India recently wrote about it on Substack. There are times when I wish I was in a relationship, but I would rather be single than be an Instagram boyfriend. I think one big red flag is a woman who has an Instagram profile full of photos of herself as if she's some sort of model. It is a...

There are a lot of opinions on this forum, and opinions aren't facts. If some random person on the internet tells me to "suck it up and be a man" I would just view it as their opinion. I value the opinions of people I know and trust, a random person on the internet isn't such a person. Having...

You could go to Andy's Man Club.

You might find this video helpful. It's about how a woman who tried to overcome her social anxiety. She has a book called Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come.