Recent content by Shadow_Monk

Here's mine for example. Whatever you want can go in it. How you're feeling, what's working, what's not working, are you doing good/bad/indifferent. Some people like to post a lot, some just a little - whatever works for you. There's no right or wrong answer.

Welcome brother! Read the About section and the Terminology articles (links at the top) for sure, possibly do some further research as well. Start a reboot log in the Reboot section of the forums if you haven't already, and find a couple of other members to follow. Having some friends on your...

Hello B3ast, welcome to the group. Your story is similar to a lot of guys on here. You can definitely find the help you're looking for to beat this addiction. The key is to start with a small goal, like "just for today, I will not PMO." Then you can build from that. It is completely possible to...

Hello Erik, welcome to the site. It sounds like you're off to a really good start by having a plan for what you want to do and why you want to do it. You already have a short term goal of seven days, which is one of the first things I recommend to newcomers. If you haven't already, start a...

Of course brother, we're all in this together.

Welcome - that's how a lot of us found the site. There are a lot of guys in this group with 30+ year habits, like myself, that are learning how to win the battle and live a more balanced life. If you're open to a couple of suggestions, here are mine: 1) Start a reboot log in the 40+ group where...

One thing at a time. If you take this journey seriously, it'll lead you to self-discovery in other areas, and you'll probably start to find that PMO was covering up some deeper issues that need resolving. At least it's been that way for quite a few of us on here. Only because I'm an Internet...

I just come straight out and say what I want. Mrs. Monk is very well aware of my kink and is happy to oblige. Occasionally I've had other partners (I am poly-amorous), and I just state early on what I'm looking for. If I get anything other than an enthusiastic response, then I'm just not that...

Hi Joe, welcome to the group. I'm not sure I have the answers to all your questions, but if your goal is to have a more healthy sex life, this is a good place to do that. I completely get your fetish/kink - I share it, and always have as long as I can remember. I find women sexier with clothes...

Welcome! My story is similar, started with PMO when I was probably 13, so going on over 30 years now, varying levels of intensity, but at the start of 2020, probably about 5-10 hours of any given week was spent in PMO. You can find a lot of support here. I'd recommend starting a reboot journal...

Welcome Alex. You can definitely find the support you're looking for here. I'd recommend that you start a reboot log to journal your progress and find a couple of other logs you can follow to start making some connections. You can also check out the accountability partners section, there's lots...

Welcome brother. Your story sounds familiar. Alone doesn't really work - this addiction thrives in secrecy. Agree with @nico2211, instead of going to the chat sites, come here. Live on this site if you need to. Read, journal, learn, distract... use it for whatever you need to start breaking the...

Yeah, isolation is a real trigger for us all. Of course, we abuse in private, so that's no real big surprise. You're wise to have identified it as an issue beforehand. My unsolicited advise is to stay away from whatever devices you use to access your sites and find something to fill that time...