Spouse of pmo addict w/pied

How do I start this conversation with my husband?

I CAN'T TAKE THIS SILENT, ACTING DISTANT AND COLD, DON'T BOTHER TOUCHING ME CUZ U KNOW U CAN'T FINISH & THAT TEARS ME APART BS ANYMORE!!!!!!

How the hell do I start this convo w/my husband?!? We both know THIS is what hurts me!!! but what do I f...ing say, & get the courage to?!?!

Recommendations on accountability software for his phone after we talk about this?

I know he loves me, wants us to be happy, but has no idea that THIS is what the baseline problem is. How do I start this conversation???

I'm his wife! I should be his only choice & outlet for sexual pleasure! Sex w/me shouldn't be difficult for him!

I get he can't help it, the addiction, I still consider it cheating, it still hurts when he gives up & goes to the shower&porn

Anyone willing to offer advice on how to to approach my husband about this? He knows I know, but he has no idea it's the cause/problem.

Spouse of pied husband/pmo addict