Recent content by Stefanie

Thank you! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

We used to work out together... then everything fell apart for me (health wise: cancer). He stopped going, because I stopped going. I want to get back there... but then this hit, and I am having a hard time just working, being a mom, cooking/cleaning etc. I am tired all the time (possibly...

Also, I think that the medium he is using to feel better is harmful to relationships and the brain actually re-wires for it. I am a nurse, so I am trying to tackle it from a medical standpoint... why does looking at people having sex and naked girls so addictive? We are talking about dopamine...

I hear you. We both got off Facebook and at first I felt sad that I was not seeing posts and pictures and other stuff to help with boredom, but it has been a month and I don’t think I will go back. I noticed how I would be in bed for 30 minutes before getting up so I can scroll through the news...

Thank you. He refuses to see anyone. He did it for a month and thought it was useles.

R Thank you. He had no coping mechanisms in place. I hope that if he learns healthy coping skills, and ways to combat boredom and loneliness with active healthy management skills, he won’t ever go back. I am not sure I will be around for it. But I do want him to get well.

Are there different levels of addiction? I am the wife of a husband who has been using pornography and masturbation since he was a teen. He used it as a substitute to sex (long story short he grew up in a conservative Christian house and thought premarital sex was really bad. Needless to say he...

We are not exercising. I am working 50+ hours a week because his job sucks and he doesn’t make any money.

I obtained my US citizenship five years ago. I didn’t really want to... long story. He would never move. Thanks for kind words.

I am beyond that... I do not have any hope left.

He is fairly anti-social and doesn’t want to talk to anyone about his problem.

By progress, you mean positive movement? No. I think that in the long run, we will get divorced. I can never trust him ever again. I can’t live a life filled with the constant worry and fear that he will do this again. It has been so damaging to me as a person. I’d rather be alone for the rest...

I am a nurse with a grad degree. I just want to know what/how does one recover. He was abstaning and that worked for four years. Then he stumbled on a link that a friend on facebook posted and the temptation was too much - he got curious. He felt awful the first time and promised he would not go...

Thank you; same here. I am just so heartbroken that when we try to communiate, I pretty much cry the entire time.

Thank you; we are not in therapy, cannot afford it, plus when we tried, he was pretty resistant. He does not think we need a therapist to tell us what is wrong and how to resolve it. He thinks he can do that by reading about the addiction and following the plan that has been oulined (working on...