+TenPercent

I was thanking my HP this morning for another day without M, and then wondered "is it really that important?" I think to M very little is good and to not M at all may be even better, but am I too focused on it. After nearly 2 years without really jerking off, how much should I be focused on not masturbating?

congratulations

No urges UNTIL . . . I said something to my gf about coffee and she texts me a meme of a manservant picking up dirty coffee cups from a female businesswoman.
Maybe it means nothing? But oh how that triggered me and my submissive fantasies. :/

Even if they do come that is just alright. The urges mean you becoming free!!! Isn't that great?? Urges are a pleasure!!! You don't have to answer the phone to them!! All you can do is chuckle about it lol.

Sounds like factors of work are tougher than urges

PMO always has and always will make things worse. The only option is to not PMO, and that is a great and fantastic choice. There is nothing wrong with stopping PMO at all. Only marvelous gains from doing so.

She is amazing and has been supportive of my trying to avoid (or at least minimise) my having orgasms. It's not easy for her when she's used to men having orgasms during sex.
What I really need to NOT do is to not M. Because that would be MO (and probably FMO, as in fantasy) and I really do not want to have any O's without her!

Sounds quite complicated

Stay strong, motivated and positive!

Wish the best for you and your gf, +TenPercent

Your technique must bave been sloppy ;)
Do regular kegels and make her scream.

Yeah, @IAmLegion it might have been my mental game - maybe I was focused more on sex and my pleasure instead of love, connection and her pleasure.
Or it may have been the (sloppy) lubricant and the way she was bouncing on it . . . or how she stopped so abruptly.

and change is not cumming, haha! :D

Sorry, I couldn't resist

I'm about ready to throw in the towel too.

@Hold it in - Hang in there!! This too shall pass.

Hold tight, you already know that the pleasure issuing from M is fleeting and very very short, while the problems are long and hard.

Try not to worry! I too have sometimes not measured-up. Life is short-bigger things to worry about. No pun intended.

take control, this girl is trolling your mind .

Hmm . . . I think it might be more like my addict mind is trolling my soul and my gf might be getting caught in the crossfire, poor girl.
I have unhealthy / emasculating fantasies about PE. And those thoughts (addict mind) clouded out loving feelings for her and led me to PE. Normally that's not an issue for me, but the fantasies were too strong.

stay the course. let the sex in your relationship be female led. the sex is better if it comes from them in the end anyway.