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  • Hey man, I have the exact same problem as you. I thought I was only one, ive had some struggles with my gf and I'm starting a reboot. I'm 5 days without PMO, I know you haven't posted in months. If you're still out there or even sign in a few months down the road let me know, i'd love to hear your progress man. Thanks for your time.
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    I'm referring to the domination/smothering type posts. I'm in the same situation where when i was 11 or 12 I started watching it.I'm now 17 and been having problems getting hard when I tried to have sex,I'm also having trouble getting hard with my own thoughts.Just wondering if its possible to recover? Maybe a little to much information man if so I apologize.Thanks again
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    Not too much information at all! Just wanted to tell you that and also that I don't have enough time at the moment to give you as in-depth of a response as I would like to, but will follow through as soon as I am able to. In the meantime, take good care :-)
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    Anonymous321
    Ok man, let me know whenever you can. Thanks for your time and understanding.
    I believe this is day 4. Last night I gave myself a pep talk of sorts in the mirror, during which I basically told myself (see comments):
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    Through all of the relapses, I have learned many things..one of which is that obeying an internal authority figure doesn't work for me. When I keep FIGHTING my cravings because I think that I *have* to, I eventually burn out, stop caring, and want to treat myself.
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    How empowering it feels to recognize my freedom of choice! It is easier in this way to keep track of why I am doing this in the first place: to help myself heal, not to boss myself around.
    black_coyote
    black_coyote
    Rock on man!
    Relapsed. Time to pick up the pieces again. It's blows me away how it ALWAYS end up seeming like a good idea when I know it's not :/
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    I don't trust myself alone with the computer at night.
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    I relapsed few days ago, annoying but the shame is not the same like my binging days so let's do this, tierdness and stress seemed to be my biggest hurdle in the stumbled back to porn.
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    Yes, those are triggers for me as well..other triggers that I've recognized are feelings of low self-esteem, wanting to get away from feelings of anger and depression, and sometimes when I'm overflowing with happiness I have the urge to treat myself to something or release the happy feelings somewhere. Thank you for reaching out and cheers to your progress :)
    Day 3 complete. I just signed up for a 10-day meditation course. I am extremely excited and scared.
    WoundedSoul
    WoundedSoul
    I see where you're coming from my friend :) It's good to sometimes feel the pain.

    I believe that pain is wonderful and is a blessing in disguise because when we feel pain we truly learn who we really are and we can embrace it grow as you said :D
    WoundedSoul
    WoundedSoul
    Enjoy the meditations My friend! I'm positive that you will enjoy the tranquility and you will emerge as a more self-conscious and have a deeper understanding and love for life :)
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    @Ray of Hope Yes, in my experience the most painful of situations have been the most powerful opportunities for breakthrough!

    Thank you for your support :) I hope that all is well with you. I honor your positive energy.
    Relapsed. Well it's time to start again, and I've learned that it's important for me to limit my internet usage (an addiction in itself)!
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    I am also noticing that I have been fighting the cravings. Fighting creates this tug-of-war between me and the cravings, and eventually I'll lose energy and, furthermore, lose the battle. I want to welcome the cravings, to accept the feelings that come with them, and observe them.
    Day 3. I am noticing how much I have been expecting of myself; daily binging was just a few months ago! Really, I have come a long way.
    Was dreading confronting my thoughts during my bedtime meditation, so I relapsed instead of meditating. Damn it! I KNOW I can do better.
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    Dustin Johnston
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    I know you can too :)
    I'm stuck in a bad cycle again too, and man does it suck. I know I can overcome this and I know you can too. Hang in there!
    wellthenisay
    Relapsed..triggered by happiness and feeling the need to celebrate. It seems that I don't know how to simply let myself feel happy!
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    makethatchange
    Sorry to hear this news, do not beat yourself up & get back on track, at least you felt happy next time keep that feeling for longer, you can do it
    Dustin Johnston
    Dustin Johnston
    Let it go. You see what you did and why it happened so that is a very good lesson. Use that to your advantage. Next time you feel happy, say to yourself that last time you slipped up because of this feeling. simply being aware of that could stop you from relapsing next time you feel that emotion. I was the same way in that I couldn't let myself be happy. I still have trouble honestly but it's getting better.
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    :) Thank you guys for the encouragement!
    Day 3 complete. It feels as if I'm beginning to re-awaken. Love, power, and presence, my friends..this is what is needed for this journey!
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    hello,well said and done.i must appreciate ur efforts to stop PMO.keep it up.we will get through this situation.
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    wellthenisay
    Thanks for the support :)
    Relapsed. Triggered by feelings of guilt..wanted an escape. Note to self: it NEVER feels worth it! I want my self-love to grow.
    Dustin Johnston
    Dustin Johnston
    Every relapse is a chance to dig really deep into yourself and find more strength. Eventually, you'll have a suit of armor, the cravings and triggers will come (they won't ever go away, so I've heard) but they will bounce of you. no harm done. hang in there, we're right here with ya!
    wellthenisay
    wellthenisay
    Thank you both for your encouragement :) This has definitely been a test of the extent that my self-love and compassion reaches; I want to grow to love all parts of myself, including fear, shame, anger, etc.. I wish courage, strength, and wisdom for all of you in this journey.
    Dustin Johnston
    Dustin Johnston
    Rest assured that your sentiments are returned, friend :)
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