does it count?

Tricky one. I would say it does not count, but we are all free to set the parameters of our own reboots. Mine is that I am not using porn and I am not masturbating. Sexual activity with my wife is fine in my reboot. I can see why you want to classify what you did as masturbation, it was, but it was with your fiancée following her lead. I would leave your counter and just smile about what a lucky guy you are, she sounds a keeper!

On a side note your posts here are sporadic. Are you managing to stay clear of pornography without spending time here reading and journaling?

 

Are you looking for absolution or an excuse?

The rule I've adopted from a pastor, actually, is this: ask yourself, "is this pulling me into a stronger and closer relationship with God and others, or not? Is this building relationship or destroying it?"
What do you think of that?

 

I am not religious but I ask a similar question: is it bringing me closer to my wife and causing us to be both happier and more fulfilled? If not, I don't do it, if so then I go for it. Nofap should not cause more distance between the two of you, but rather bring you closer together.

 

I'd say... it depends (my stock answer, pretty much, because everything is relative!). If your objective is to stop using porn, but to continue doing anything and everything that involves your fiancée, then I'd say the episode you describe is probably fine, especially as she initiated it (not that you were imposing your will on her, in which case one might question your motives - were you just after some Psub?). On the other hand, if - as your day counter suggests - you want to avoid MO, then depending on what exactly you did after you 'gave in', you may have breached the parameters. (And in that case, I also would like to know why exactly did she knowingly lead you down that path?)

In my situation, that wouldn't constitute a relapse, but you'll need to be own judge.