Cause for escalation to unnatural P?

For many it has more to do with escalation, the need to find something more shocking or wild or out of your normal. If you are not attracted in real situations it is not real.

 

This is one of the worst things about Porn addiction. You can find yourself being attracted to things in porn that you are absolutely not into in reality. And this dichotomy can really mess with you head and amplify your shame.

 

The porn we watch doesn't always accurately relate to our true sexuality since much of it is hyper sexualised and a bit over the top when you actualy compare it to regular every day sex. A lot of people, myself included, went through a prolonged period of desensitisation where your personal barriers, whether they be moral or ethical or something else start to errode the longer you engage in PMO and what used to shock you no longer has the same effect. It's why people can end up viewing illegal material as well as stuff that doesn't resonate with their true sexual nature. If you are gay then you will know if you stop viewing hardcore porn and any porn and notice after the months pass how you view those around you.

Before the advent of online porn and print media, we used to use social cues and other real life things to help us gauge our level of attraction to whoever or whatever but these days we are bombarded with other peoples fantasies pushed onto us through pornography, they may start to become our own due to exposure but when you take away the porn it is surprising how your view of sex, love and intimacy changes

 

You’re straight, bro. If you’ve never had romantic feelings or a crush on a dude then you are straight. All this is porn induced. It’s evil stuff. Stop now.

 

Same sex attraction is very common in long term pornography use. As you rid your life of pornography, this attraction will also disappear over time. Don't get worried or psych yourself out. Whereas any time you encounter porn again in the future this same-sex attraction might come back, so long as you abstain from porn, you will notice that this attraction was only due to your addiction and not your actual self

 

To the thing with the people with hocd and not escalating to gay porn (maybe even transwoman)for me I knew I was never gay so I never looked it up I’ve have stumbled upon gay porn in the past and after 5 seconds of watching it and find out it was gay porn I exited out of it same sex fantasy’s don’t give the rush that just girls alone gives me has anyone here ran into any gay people that have escalated to straight porn if that’s even a thing?also does anyone think that pmoing can take away your attraction from real life girls cause for the past year with my hocd I’ve been feeling very asexual and some days feeling gay (usually when my hocd is really getting to me and making me doubt a lot)

 

I don't know. I escalated pretty much into everything, even trans. Never loked gay tho, if they are man at least they have to look feminine.
And even that it was a question of shock because I was a little disgusted.

 

Hey, going through a similar ordeal myself. I've been to a psychotherapist and a psychologist and neither seem to think I'm gay, though I'm not quite convinced myself. Both therapists did emphasise that I need to remove porn from my life (which has been a lot harder than I thought).
For what it's worth, my focus is on not watching porn today, and I'll have the same focus tomorrow and on and on. If I can go without it today then there's no good reason that I can't go without it tomorrow.
As for my sexuality, I'm trying to stop figuring it out in my head and instead just telling myself that whether straight, gay or bi, I should have a much better idea once porn is no longer a factor.
So I would suggest that for right now, focus more on not watching porn and I'm time everything else will take care of itself.
Best of luck, I hope things work out for you.

 

Yes. And it escalates to not just genres. To 'hentai' cartoons. Mass orgies. Violent/rough (= totally unnatural or healthy) act. Zoolophilia. Pedophilia. Murder videos...corpses...all carnality.

The reason for this is simple. Sex idea is an instinct. Like fear. It is subconsciouss. So because the subconsciouss has no discernment/wakefullness, if let loose it really goes...it goes far...

Just like you do discipline the 'normal' sex instinct in public so all expressions of this instinct (and all instincts, for the matter) are disciplined in a civilised and intellectually/spiritually developed society of evolved creatures.

 

That’s good thing that you are just waiting to find out who you are people with hocd always want certain that they are straight but you need to just say who cares I’ll find out who I am when the time comes I’d say live with that