Im anxious guy and i had terrible date.

You havnt found your kind of people

 

For one , that girl seemed very emotionless.

It also seem like your suffering from Social Anxiety . Try looking into exposure therapy .

NoFAP will definitely help you. It has helped me big time and it's only been 8 days .

 

Is it possible that the girl was very shy also? Maybe she really did want to talk to you but she was very nervous because she doesn't know you. She did not tell you that she didn't like you, that is something you are guessing. When you make guesses like that, you are creating the social anxiety. That's all social anxiety is really: Guessing that people don't/won't like you or that something bad will happen. It's like you are fortune telling, but fortune telling isn't possible.

 

Don't ever ask if she likes you and don't ask what type of guys she is into. That will dry them up real fast lmao.

Your insecurity is a massive turn off. If you don't like yourself, why would anyone?

Get on NoFap first, try again when you have no anxiety. If I feel like my anxiety is up there, and don't feel in the mood, I won't try. You need to be on point, conversations will flow much easier also.

You are unhappy and believe a chick will fix it. Try NoFap first.

Just be your best, don't be afraid of how she thinks of you, and if it doesn't work out, move onto the next.

 

I think you should give yourself some time. You aprroached a girl how awesome is that? If i were you i would go coffee shops sit in the table without a phone and just try to pass some time. You can't keep looking at the table so eventually you will have eye contact with people. This was something scary for me, i was having hearth attacks walking the secret trying to decide to look people or not. After nofap i look people in the eye and now, they have a hearth attack. Wear good, go to coffee shop even if you act all stupid girls will be like "this stupid guy looks nice". People used to call me walking anxiety so we can help each other out.

 

Honestly, never understood social anxiety, what's the worst that can happen? You need to start forcing yourself to be more social, this will quickly become habitual, you can't learn to swim without getting wet. Never understood why most people got social anxiety, let's be real, everyone here will probably be dead in 100 years time so why waste your life being scared of living?

 

So I am a little disappointed in the quality of responses you have been getting. Coming from 14+ years of depression with a side of anxiety hopefully I can offer a more helpful response than "go be more social!"

You have a good start here! Yes, it is not perfect but you are making some good steps, like analysing the date, asking yourself questions about how you can improve, and you have sought out advice here! That's great!

Social anxiety is tough to live with. Who can you get help from? What resources are available in your area? Which counsellors, doctors, pastors, support groups, or family members could you go to? Professional help has always helped me a lot with my depression and loneliness and I know several people with anxiety who have gotten help from professionals, too. What help is available?

Dating with social anxiety is a challenge, but not impossible! Google "dating social anxiety" and all kinds of great tips come up! (Google it in your native language and you will be able to understand it better, even!). Other great search terms: "date suggestion social anxiety" and "date idea anxiety." Seriously, there are thousands of links and suggestions! You are not the first to have anxiety and date, which means you can read other people's stories and find which ideas work for you.

For the date itself: I noticed you had a lot of yes-or-no and short-answer questions. "How long have you known my friends?" or "Did you ever go out on night parties in my city?" have very short answers and the conversation dies quickly. I have two suggestions to improve your conversations and (hopefully) make it less awkward.

• First, people love talking about themselves. Ask people questions about their interests, hopes, dreams, and thoughts and they will talk forever! Ask her for her opinion of something, and ask her why she thinks that way (and really listen!). She will really appreciate it.
  
• Second, ask open-ended questions. "Are you just shy or don't you like me?" is not a good question to ask because there is no good answer to that question. Either she is shy (bad) or she doesn't like you (and is bad for saying it). Instead, ask a question that starts with the word "what." "What" questions have no wrong answers and are very open. "What is your dream job?" "What do you like about ____?" "What do you think of ____?" "What kind of job do you do? What do you you do in a typical day?" ...All of these are open questions that get people talking. As they answer, you can ask more "what" questions to clarify or find out more about what they mean.

I use these two tricks not just when I date - I use them when I look for jobs, too. I will meet with someone and ask them about their work, what they do, and what they think of the job, and they can talk for hours! I then know if I want to work at that company or do that job! Try it out!

I hope this gives you something to consider. What do you think of these suggestions?

 

Remember, 20-30% of females in western countries have mental problems.

 

Where are you getting your statistics? I would really like to see verification of that, because that feels wrong.

 

I'm glad you found it helpful!