I met a girl i really like

Hey, i have been working on my recovery over the past year, made a lot of progress and turned my life around. But since i have still been relapsing relativeley often, i still didnt feel ready to date someone.
But as it happens, i met a girl i actually really like. We have a lot in common, i love talking to her and she is interested in me too. We already went on two dates after the first time we met, and we got pretty close.
But once it came to having sex, my anxieties kicked in and i lost my erection. She was really understanding about it and we talked about just waiting for a while. I think it is a good thing to wait to have sex, but there is still this part in me that wants to proof that i can do it and i kinda want to know whether or not i am ready to have a normal sex life. I also dont want her to feel like there is anything wrong with her.
I try not to stress myself about it, but it is something that keeps creeping into my head, that i have to „perform“, or proof something.
Right now i think the best thing would be to actually wait until i am at least 30 days pmo free, i think this would be a goal that is finally in reach for me. But so far i havent talked to her about the fact that i am still in recovery and i am not sure if it would be better to just see what happens.
I just had to get this off my chest for now, maybe some of you can give me your take on this issue.

 

Thanks, i know that it is probably better to take things slow, and she already told me she is fine with it. I actually didnt plan to go that far with her so quickly, and she told me she actually planed to wait too. But it just kinda happened and i wasnt sure what to make of it. I probably still got some wrong expectations of what sex would mean and of how important it is. Hope i can figure these things out over the next couple of weeks and eventually take this next step towards a better and healthier life with her.

 

So a quick update. We had our third date, and we talked a little about our issues and how we would handle sex, among some other things. We decided that we would wait with having sex and instead just enjoy some foreplay and closeness together. It felt really good to be with her in that way, without any pressure. I was more focused on exploring her body, and feeling her close to me and it was no problem for me to get hard in that setting. It was great just to be with her like that.
I think just taking away the pressure like that solved a lot of issues for me. I feel a lot more confident after that night, and even though i am still technically a virgin i dont feel like there is anything I have to be afraid of anymore.
I am probably pretty lucky that i have met a girl that is as understanding and open as she is, but maybe others struggling with that issue can try a similar aproach.