i underestimated this addiction. i need help.

Read this post if you haven't yet.

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

 

Nice post NamaClature14

 

Here is a copy of a private message I received from William early in my journey. His journal made all the difference in the world to me and I must say I credit his journal and help for my success


"Hi EverettSmith.

Thanks for posting on my "Get Educated" thread. At 56 you will have an easier difficult time quitting than the younger ones, the kids whose first sexual experiences and thoughts were hypersexualized by porn. The science shows that guys who are older, who wired before the existence of High Speed Internet Porn, wired first to--surprise--actual sex, thoughts of sex with real women. Because you were wired to those first at one time it will take you less to rewire to them because men who were wired that way at least once, as opposed to never (meaning only to porn) can rewire more easily, or to be technically correct, with less difficulty.

Again, thanks for writing. As I get farther and farther away from the initial struggle my posts have become less urgent, less about how to quit porn and more about how to live life well. But, be certain Everett, when quitting, when first quitting, you must do it with urgency, with focus, with determination, even with anger. You cannot keep it in your life--at all--and overcome it. There are two types of guys here, the guys who hate what porn has done to them, but want to control it, keep it on leash, keep it in their lives. They are doomed to fail when quitting. The second type of guys--and this is me--are guys who realize porn came to control them, and that the only way to control it is to excommunicate it, defriend it, ban it, expel it, eliminate it totally from your life. Do that 9 months, like I have, and not watching porn becomes the thing you want to do.

Good luck Everett. I hope to see you in here helping others. How do we help ourselves? We help ourselves by helping others, so find people to help.

Good luck on your journey."




You can , and should, read his entire journal. It takes over 1.5 hours to go through the whole thing but for me it was the best 1.5 hours I ever spent on this. He tells you what to expect. To be forewarned is to be forearmed. It literally saved my life, and now perhaps my marriage too


http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthrea...ve-withdrawals

 

This is a great thread...

 

The original post and most of the replies blew my mind. In a good way that is. I have only looked at my PMO issues thru my own looking glass and never really thought how cultural differences would effect someone else in their reasoning to manage this problem.

Right now I feel like a sponge and all I want to do is suck up as many viewpoints, tips, advice, personal experiences as I can so I can make my own informed decisions and choices in my own fight. Thanks for sharing!! Gives me some food for thought.