Rebooting, Motivation and talking to girls

Reading from your comments, your motivation problem may be something that is causing your dilemma of talking to girls. What exactly do you want to achieve with nofap? How are you trying to accomplish this goal? There is a youtube channel that specifically addresses this issue, called "Matts What it is nofap". He makes some interesting points on this type of problem. About your motivation dieing down, I realize that this is difficult to maintain because I used to be in your shoes as well. I usually try to reprogram my mind to find pleasure doing something else, such as reading. Hope this is helpful.

 

@never_again I think tin_man came up with great ideas. There are literally thousands of ways to bring beauty, diversity and dynamism into your life: music, sports, walking, laughing with friends, exchanging ideas on forums or YouTube, to name only a few that require spending little money or no money at all. If you are thinking about your future, you may consider learning foreign languages, computer skills and any other skill that could help you earn money. The Internet is a great source for those who want to learn History or about other cultures and traditions. Team sports like football or soccer should be practiced by every young person in order to boost their self-confidence and look good.

Life and happiness work in a very strange counter-intuitive way. For example, focusing on girls and money will never bring you girls and money. But focusing on self-improvement will bring you everything: satisfaction, respect, friends, connections, money (or at least a decent salary), status, etc.

Now, a few words about the real cause of addiction. Lots of people are convinced that their addictions are caused by past traumas or problems. While it is crucial for us to know and analyze our past traumas in order to improve ourselves and move on, they are not the real cause of our addictions. If you look around, you'll notice that any type of person can become an addict: rich or poor, lazy or hard-working, with or without past traumas. That means the real cause of our addiction is our weakness and lack of determination. So I think the next time we feel the urge to masturbate we should take the right decision and simply choose not to do it.

 

I go through this too man. I always had trouble with reintroductions. My anxiety tells me they don't remember me, and so I ignore them. Then I feel fake as hell and scream inside my head with frustration.

 

Stay strong man, I went through something similar last week. I have been trying to stop porn for at least a year, and I made great progress in the last several months. Then stress, self-hate, etc kicked in and I relapsed bad. It's what led me to this site. Everyone is here to help everyone succeed. A slip-up isn't too bad as long as you bounce back and don't binge. Keep fighting and move forward.

 

Maybe you need to work kindness into your life. If you are a compassionate person you can relate with people easier.
Google "zenhabits A Guide to Cultivating Compassion in Your Life, With 7 Practices"

 

Whenever these thoughts come across the first thing I try to do is getting out of my current enviroment to a place where P or M isn't gonna be possible, you should try to always get rid of the things that intrigue these stuff like sexy pictures or memes on your facebook wall, try to sleep early and don't stick until 1 or 2 AM as you will be way weaker during these times and those are the times that the thoughts are mostly invoked in.