Is Love sexualized?

It sure does. That's why I've given up on heterosexual women, and I'd only date "asexual" women.

 

So boys and girls are only interested in each other because of sex? WTF?! Boys and girls could be friends, and are not obligated to have sex. Boys and girls can have their own kids without sex, by the way, without adoption.

 

Love sort of is sexualized, because most people act like a relationship can't work without sex. And you don't love girls but you're sexually attracted to them? Are you an aromantic aegosexual?

 

That's like saying the only thing your partner is good for is sex, which is so f**ked up in so many ways. Asexuals are able to maintain healthy, loving relationships which have no sex whatsoever. That's why I'd rather date "asexual women."

 

An "aromantic aegosexual" is a person who is not interested in being in a romantic relationship with ANYONE, and (in your case) can get aroused by women, but do not wish to actually participate in sex.

 

I don't wanna debate either for "hours." Whatever, bye.

 

An emotional, mental, and spiritual bond between a man and a woman. And if you do want sex, then you're an aromantic heterosexual.

 

I think there tied together inherently but it is a bit over done

 

That's the question what is love actually?

Someone once wrote this about love:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Another question to ask is what is sex actually?

Someone else once wrote this:
For many, sexuality is simply what happens between two people involving physical pleasure. But that's only a small percentage of what sexuality is. Our sexuality is all of the ways we strive to reconnect with our world, with each other, and with God... You can have sex with many, and yet you're alone. And the more sex you have, the more alone you are. And it's possible to be sleeping alone, and celibate and to be very sexual. Connected with many.

I think you can love without having sex and have sex without loving, but when you have have sex without love you're missing out on a truly great experience. I think sex without love (or connection) is like only watching the first half of a football game. But equally so I think not having sex is like missing the first half of the football game, the second half is more important than the first because you will see how the game ends but you miss part of the experience if you miss out on one the first part of the game. For best experience of a game you need to watch the first and second half.

I think it should also said that there are two different type of loves - romantic love that relies on feeling and true love that goes beyond feelings and shows a commitment. Just because someone says they love you doesn't they actually do because at the end of the day love is something you prove with your actions rather than your words.

Here's a good quote from Mark Manson on this issue:
Romantic love is a trap designed to get two people to overlook each other’s faults long enough to get some babymaking done. It generally only lasts for a few years at most. That dizzying high you get staring into your lover’s eyes as if they are the stars that make up the heavens — yeah, that mostly goes away. It does for everybody. So, once it’s gone, you need to know that you’ve buckled yourself down with a human being you genuinely respect and enjoy being with, otherwise things are going to get rocky.

True love — that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy — is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances. It’s a commitment to a person who you understand isn’t going to always make you happy — nor should they! — and a person who will need to rely on you at times, just as you will rely on them.

That form of love is much harder. Primarily because it often doesn’t feel very good. It’s unglamorous.

 

Love doesn't mean sex.

 

interesting theory, and I must say that I agree with you.

 

Real love is not sexual or sexualized. You can express your love through sex, but it's nothing like having sex without love. It doesn't look the same, feel the same, etc. It is the deep, intimate, emotional connection you share with someone that encapsulates what love is. Being truly in love with someone means wanting to share every bit of yourself with that person and wanting every piece of them. Sex can be important but it doesn't actually matter. If the person you are in love with, was unable to have sex due to a medical reason, etc, then it wouldn't be a deal breaker unless you didnt actually love the person. Sex is just a tool used to share yourself in your purest, most vulnerable form with faith that they will embrace you as you are and the hope that they will honor what you have given them and will appreciate and respect it and in return share themselves with you at their purest and most vulnerable as well. For majority of people, sexual activities are what they use to share themselves and express their emotions for another. Having sex, "making love" and f**king are 3 entirely separate things though. You will never see people "making love" in a video. It would never be in a porn or even in someone's own home movies. Love is not something you can actually experience just by seeing someone, that is lust. You don't feel or "fall in" love with someone after a few hours or days even. It's something that takes time and is earned through intimacy, emotional connection, honesty, respect, trials and triumphs. Having feelings for someone, whether its a "romantic feeling" or not, that you don't really know and have never been in any kind of relationship with isn't something you should be relying on. Lust, infatuation, obsessions, etc are all feelings that aren't based on who a person really, truly is but what you want or perceive them to be. Those feelings take away from whom the person is and assigns them a role instead that they must always play and maintain if they want to have you continue to feel that way towards them. You don't need sex in order to have interest in the opposite sex either. Only a sex/love addict that is attracted to the opposite sex would feel that way. Because to them, they receive their "fixes" through the attention of the opposite sex and if they no longer have that option then they no longer see a use for them. Almost like a recovering heroin addict no longer being interested in finding/meeting new drug dealers since he no longer has use for their products. The rest of us are interested in the opposite sex the same as we are interested in our same sex because interesting people bring something to your life regardless of their gender, orientation or attractiveness. When sex isn't the only thing on your mind or the only thing that matters, your world becomes bigger, more colorful and far more interesting than you could ever imagine or even begin to hope for. That's my opinion at least.

 

This.

 

No need to rush, you will know what love is when you feel it.