25 days had sex

I suggest do 90 days first and then have sex. You need more time for recover and if you dont have strong erection then dont have sex.
Weak erection means you are not healed from PMO yet.

 

As stated by the NoFap Challenge I agree with this post. I am also very excited for time to pass without relapsing. With a strong willpower I hope not to have any faults in my 3 month spree.

I just read a post on 4chan that talked about how "NoFap" was more based on no porn and you could still masturbate with fantasy. But I didn't believe what was read there.

 

maybe 25 is too early. I had sex at day 80 and was great

 

I think it depends. Since I have a long-term girlfriend and we're in a sexually active relationship, in the interest of our relationship I'm basically retraining my brain to crave real sex and stopping all other forms of orgasm, at least for now. In our situation it's just not realistic to stop all sexual activity. Sex is a part of our intimacy. Maybe someday I can masturbate again without falling back into porn addiction, but that's not a bridge I expect I'll come to anytime soon.

In my experience, our sex has gotten much better since I've been off PM. When we do have sex, it's a lot more intense. Granted, it's now easier for me to finish and I have to change some of my activity habits to compensate, but overall it's worth it. And she appreciates the change.

 

THIS.

I hear a lot about "reset" etc, I found by not watching P or M'in that I started to CRAVE it elsewhere, this led to me doing things I wouldn't normally.

Travelling to a different locale to meet up and date (about 3-4 since my NoFap signup), Going for Coffee and breakfast with another girl in the morning and the times I've had sex with another person during this - I have been FAR more engaged and P didn't even cross my mind, I noticed the body in front of me and suddenly it was like "wow- I am having sex look at me go" lol I don't know how else to describe it.

Before there was such a disjoint like I was watching the scene of me having sex, now I am "present" and the response from the other person is better or rather I am aware of it.

I don't think everyone has to wait a set number of days IF the goal is to retrain your brain to crave sexual intimacy with a live human being outside of your hand or self gratification.

One thing I did note- I am very cautious about playing hand solo even in a sexual situation with another person - because that I believe may be a slippery slope, may be worrying over nothing, but avoiding it with alternative acts.

 

I think it depends on how you define a relapse and what your goals were when you first started your recovery. If your goal is to avoid ALL forms of orgasm and sexual activity as a total, complete reboot, then technically yes, having sex would constitute a relapse. If your goal is to avoid masturbation and pornography, then no, you didn't relapse. Ultimately, imo, the goal of NoFap is for people to have normal (safe and non-addictive), healthy sexual expressions with real people.

 

This is basically my experience too. Especially the "feeling present" thing. When I was PM'ing, when I had sex it was like I was watching myself have sex or I had to imagine my gf having sex (either with me or someone else) in order to get really turned on. Basically it was like imagining yourself in a porn movie, more or less. Now that I've spent some time off PM, when I have sex, I am really and truly having sex. My gf has always been very sexy to me, but having sex with her again after I've been off PM it's like I'm seeing her naked for the first time and it's super hot. Like, having sex with her the other night and recognizing "Holy shit, she's totally naked and having sex with me!" made me a little wild. Cue "Like a Virgin" LMAO.

I am also cautious about touching myself when I'm having sex with my gf. I think that's me taking it a bit too far -- stroking yourself a little as part of having sex with a real person is still keeping with the spirit of NoFap if not the law.

 

Lol I think your post made OP relapse