Day 58 and quite frustrated

Keep at it! Flat lines are rough and seem to never end. During them days are longer and so much less satisfying, but this isn't the rest of your life. The flat lines will end and by introducing new dopamine producing activities into your life (way to go with backpacking!) you will find relief sooner than later. See this lack of a libido as a freedom of sense. You've been dictated by sex your entire life and now you're not. Naturally this will cause discomfort and uneasiness but what's better:

1) The unfamiliarity of life without sex driving your motives/subconscious.

or

2) The insatiable need for more that a PMO lifestyle demands.

In one case you are an explorer sailing to a new land with limitless possibilities and outcomes. In the other you are chained below decks on the Amistad, rowing without purpose, direction or hope. You've been the explorer to this point, don't allow yourself to be dragged down below.

and Smile; You Can Do It!

 

Glad you're posting. Suggest get medical check for ED. If no physiological problem doctor may suggest medication. Pretty sure long term P involved. It's tough but well worth eliminating all ED factors like PMO, smoking etc. Wish you every success

 

keep going right path mate, it's only way to go, stay strong!

 

Stay with the program. Glad to hear you don't plan on going back.
What has your 58 days been abstaining from? Just P? PM? Are you spending intimate time with your wife?

 

Stay strong and don't lose hope. I'm in a similar situation. 36, at Day 67 still have PIED but things are improving slowly, still have not recovered but at a point where this s the only option. I have been in a flatline right from the beginning. A few days here and there where I saw my penis show some life. Things are getting better down there tho.

The way i look at it, what other choice is there?? I don't want to go thru life with a dead dick. The most frustrating thing is I have more women wanting to hook up with me right now than any other point in my life. I understand how hard it is but I believe it will be worth it. Stay strong!

 

Yeah I can relate to this. I'm in the same position. I'm 32 and went into a flatline 1.5 weeks after stopping porn. It was just impossible for me to get/maintain 100% erections in just 1.5 weeks after stopping porn. I think it's very slowly improving now though. I can get a 100% erection now, but it takes too much physical stimulation to do so and it just still feels abnormal somehow (not as much feeling) and it can go away quite quickly.

The only thing I can we can do is just keep waiting and stay on the path I guess. There are people that have come out of flatlines very suddenly (not progressively), and also at all varying points in time - 2 months, 3 months, 4 months - all the way up to 2 years.

 

You're doing great @grdnpnd, I'll get to 2 months as well some day. Don't give up!

 

Don't give up! I have been trying for years to rid myself of this addiction. My first attempt was over 2 years ago and have never made this long since I was 13 years old. I was addicted for 17 years. After I quit, I was having a really hard time and was relapsing within 2-3 weeks every time. I had some serious issues with erectile dysfunction and really, I didn't even have any interest in sex whatsoever with my partner. I never felt like initiating and when she tried, I would not be interested.

It isn't what I hoped it would be at this point, but it is getting better. My whole view of women as a whole has changed. I don't immediately objectify them when I look at them. Sure, I look at women still, it's just with a different lens.

My guess is the longer you were addicted and the more fapping you did, the longer it's going to take to rewire the brain.

Keep doing what you are doing - backpacking, staying active and especially watch what you eat. The healthier you eat, the better libido you will have. It takes time, but stay the course and don't give up. What's the alternative? I relapsed after 70 days last year. It was awful. I was a mess for two weeks because I was depressed, angry, and ashamed of myself. You don't want that. Be patient, live healthy, and it will all work out.