Everyone just goes to that one dude. What am I? A ghost?

Some men are more attractive than others. You have to either become as attractive as him (might not be possible because of genetics) or learn to deal with it. If you ask me, just don't bother. Would you really want to be second choice anyway? Find someone who will like you.

 

Sorry aguy but I don't agree. Ultimately it's up to jacob but if I was interested in some girl, and she'd show no interest back until the guy she wants rejects her, I would not be her fallback plan. If she doesn't want you right off the bat, keep moving IMO.

 

To some degree I agree. Take a time out. Stop messaging her. Avoid her at work as much as possible from a social perspective. You need to let your brain cool. You can't control who she is attracted to. Sometimes we can't control who we ourselves are attracted to.

She may be attracted to your friend b/c "he doesn't do anything." You on the other hand are doing a lot.

And FWIW, dating people you work with is a bad idea. To quote Tony Solrano: "I don't shit where I eat. "

 

This is life my brah...

Your friend was born with a better looking face and the girl is naturally more attracted to him because he can produce more genetically gifted offspring, it's simple biology, no hard feelings

You gotta expand your social circle to forget about her, go smash some call-girls, the same way you are trying to go Cold Turkey on PMO you gotta go on her... Don't talk/chat with her unless it's strictly work-related, and just try to fuck some other chick...

Also don't forget to consult a surgeon and see if you can still scramble some looks on your side. Shit like recessed chin, negative canthal tilt, round jaw etc. can be fixed with enough money.

 

I used to be infatuated with so many different girls. Now the idea of being infatuated with a girl before sleeping with them sounds crazy.

You barely know her, I think the only way to truly understand someone is to spend a lot of time around them just you two.

There is no point in wasting love on someone that doesn't love you back.

Just chill out, breathe slowly, and try to get her out of your mind as much as you can.

One day you will be a girl you love and who loves you back, looking back at this you will laugh.

 

Lmao @ your beliefs, the reason the below happens is because you still believe in this low test geek bullshit:

I'll just leave you with this:

 

You were cucked hard. I bet she was thinking what a nice personality you have whilst your friend was deep in them sugar walls, right?

I mog you hard (would post pictures but mods are too upset at the thought of an attractive young male), if I had to guess what you look like whilst thinking personality matters:



Meanwhile your friend:



Actually scratch that, if you think personality matters, create a Tinder profile using your pictures and pictures of any decently attractive young guy. Second profile will get a date within a couple hours, you'll be lucky to get a match after 2 months (will probably be a bot too)

 

Stop trying. Become a useful and competent man. Learn new skills. Meet more people. Avoid conversational narcissism. Exercise. Practice excellent hygiene. Drink water. Eat healthy. You've heard it all before. Now do it. You can.

 

See the work. Do the work. Stay out of the misery.

 

Granted this was not the kindest reply, after watching the video, I am now convinced of my own 6/10 self. I came to this forum to get radically transparent and get help with an issue I have and in that vein, I think SubBruh might be on to something. See what she is saying and not saying as motivation - I'm not sure the whole surgery route is needed, but you can hit the gym hard, get a better job and make more money, improve your social circle, get another girlfriend and make her jealous, clean up your skin - who knows, it is for you to learn. You need to figure out what she wants, more importantly WHY she wants and how you are going to get it to her. Then you have to ask yourself WHY are you so motivated to do all this to get her. WHY does she matter to your own goals? The WHY is key on both sides. Read the book Art of Seduction by Robert Greene (or get the Cliff Notes at least) and you will learn many of the ways.

 

@SupBruh Man, wtf are you saying. Go away.

The whole surgery topic is so out of question here that even people talking about it makes me LOL

 

@Jacob167
I had a crush in my office once as well. I'm still struggling with it even after me leaving the company.
I'd like to talk with you via chat somewhere so we can discuss it and I can help you with the situation.
Please, consider this since I'm really chocked how your situation was similar to mine a few years ago.
Cheers

 

Have you ever used kik?
Its an anonymous chat app. We can talk there

 

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