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Started talking to a girl for the very first time, but I think I am in a flatline

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Ogrelord, Sep 27, 2017.

  1. Ogrelord

    Ogrelord Fapstronaut

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    So yesterday, i built up the courage to approach a girl I was really interested in, for the first time ever at the age of 17. I found her very attractive around a week ago, but now after I have talked to her, I don't feel sexual energy, or feel aroused by her. I think im in a flatline, of course in the worst time possible, because she is interested in me too. It isnt only her im not aroused by either, its every girl, even porn. I only took a peek to see if it would arouse me but sure enough it didn't. I am on day 22 of nofap. This is making me less motivated to talk to her and is making me lose interest, and I feel it is hurting my chances of having a relationship with her. Does anyone have tips or advice for going thru a flatline while talking to a girl?
     
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  2. MarinoBigFan1984

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    That’s not a flatline. Did she seem interested?
     
  3. MarinoBigFan1984

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    If she is that’s anxiety not a flatline. Go on a date and have fun. Live life.
     
  4. Ogrelord

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    Yeah she seems interested, nothing for sure, but she was implying that we have a date on sunday, but she has no phone because her parents are strict, and i can only talk to her at school so i think it was setup to fail. But after i talk to her, i feel super depressed in my next class, i have no idea why. Im finally talking to a gil, and i girl i wanted, with a great personality. But its like my brain is messed up or something.
     
  5. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Sounds like she lives in prison
     
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  7. Ogrelord

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    Yeah. I like that nofap has given me confidence to approach a girl. But now that she hasnt given me a for sure answer wether or not she likes me, its giving me second thoughts. I feel like i should avoid talking to her on monday, and see how she reacts. Im just really feeling indifferent right now and so far it has been a bad first experience, because i went wayyy out of my confort level for this.
     
  8. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Why are you so scared of girls?
     
  9. Ogrelord

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    I never really had the confidence, and i was physically insecure about myself, but i have spent years improving my physique and my habits. I also have a better mentality of life now. But ive never really had experience with girls, and i believe watching porn since sixth grade till sophomore year really hurt the way i view girls, and gave me anxiety because all i wanted was sex. I have been doing nofap streaks from 7 days up to 24 days (my current streak) since this january, but now i want a relationship with a girl. I feel that i am ready, but idk my anxiety hasnt gone i suppose. It is better, but not as good as i thought. And talking to this girl, which i was really interested in, has kind of caught me off guard. It seems as tho it isnt how i thought it was going to go. Ive always wanted a challenge, and so i took the challenge. I went up to her, with all of my anxiety and nervousness, and talked to her. But now its more of a challenge than i expected, and i almost feel overwhelmed.
     
  10. Ogrelord

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    I believe i talk to her quite fine and dont seem too nervous, but i think my body language isnt the best. But i feel like having a relationship with her is beyond my control right now, and it seems as tho she isnt being very proactive. I just cant tell. I still have yet to complement her, and talk about relationship stuff just yet, but she does know for sure i like her. Because thats why i gave this girl a chance, because my friends told her that i think she is cute, and they said she seemed interested. And she glanced at me quite often before i talked to her.
     
  11. Ogrelord

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    Maybe being lead on???
     
  12. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Don’t talk to your friends about her tell her herself. Don’t be passive.
     
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  13. MarinoBigFan1984

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    If NoFap gives you more confidence great but don’t expect miracles. You still need to experience all the steps in dating to make it happen.
     
  14. HatePorn

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    You think too much...just go for that date. Forget about NoFap, Masturbation goals, flatlines, about what she thinks about you and so on......just go for it!
     
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  15. SupBruh

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    Just a reminder that whilst you are making theories about how she looked at you one way or another, there are guys messaging her right now and setting up a Netflix and chill session
     
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