My life changing story at 5 months hard mode

Cool, man. Next time stick it in !

 

I'm encouraged

 

What were you doing when you were in that horny state? I don't mean what are you doing when she gave you a blowjob. What are you doing when you feel horny and you are alone in the apartment. That is the most difficult part for me. I am almost 90 days masturbation free, also 90 days porn free - more or less (just today I watched some nude softcore for about few minutes and some flicks of my ex-girlfriends blowing me)
But the thinking of sex... is tough to ignore. because of that, I am unproductive. I have sex like once a week but it still tough.

 

I understand you. It is a catch 22.

But I think we should watch hot girls on the street. What should we watch instead? Fucking pigeons? lol. Even 90-year-old guys look at them (women, not pigeons). That is the juice of life. The essence. All art is based around that.

Some of the porn thoughts are fine. The majority here wants to go from one extreme to the next. I want to find a middle solution. Maybe someday watch a porn film together with my girlfriend and laugh about mediocre performance and fake smiles. That would be awesome. On the positive note - my horny state makes me a beast as you said. But that also means that I lost 12kg and have a body I never had in my life! So to conclude. It is fucking awesome to be horny, but if we control it 100% - which is very hard as nature has its way.

 

I agree. Watching at hot girl can distract and wake up you sexually for days. When you have sexual energy in you and you see some hot girl then she becomes a target to shoot that energy to. Its like porn - you watch it and then have image in your head to release energy to. Looking at hot girls in public is like porn sub cause you have that image of her burned in mind for days. Heck I still remember how looked that hot girl I seen in the middle of summer in market. Was looking at her more seconds than necessary.

Better would be rather focus on girls like human beings. Not just focus on their looks(boobs and ass) but focus on their school diplomas instead, want to see those diplomas when you visit her house. In fact right girl will show you them right after you come in her place - "Here is my diplomas"

I remember I used to visit beach in Greece 4 years ago because there was ussualy some naked girls there. I would look at them and then return to hotel to edge. That was like porn substitude to me and I didnt see edging as M back then. In fact didnt know words like edging or P substitute back then. But now I know better after reading "In case you didnt know" topic, here on nofap.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/in-case-you-didnt-know.84619/

 

nice

 

Instead of trying to stop seeing girls as sex objects, use that as motivation to face your fear and approach them - you shouldn't be thinking about their diplomas... They like it if you are attracted to them.

Train yourself to approach girls whenever you see one you like, then start having conversations - even if it's a boring conversation about what the time is, eventually you will become confident enough to get numbers and have relationships and sex with real women in the real world instead of only the porn world - don't punish yourself for having sex thoughts - sexual desire is not bad, it's beautiful.

Imagine if you went out everyday, starting today.. and approached 1 girl - thats 7 girls a week, 30 (ish) per month and hundreds per year. It's easy once you get used it doing it - trust me, I used to be so anxious that I'd have panic attacks and lock myself in the bathroom for 30 mins.. Now I can meet anyone, anywhere, and choose the women I want in my life.

This may not end your desire to ever look at porn again, but it will make a huge improvement in your life

Great job comitting to NoFap, approaching real girls will make the journey much more enjoyable

 

great achievement.... NOW,,,,,, we must take back Balkan-Turkee!!

 

what if im bald and 5foot2 inches?? can i still?? what you think about it

 

You're only making that a problem in your head.

Yes, you can definitely become good with women and make your life better.

 

Thats amazing, what an inspiration!

 

Cheers to that bro!
You have learned to love yourself which is of utmost importance

 

Awesome ive been there until i did hookers and fell way back....

 

I too went the hooker way once, but did not consider it a relapse since I was aiming for PM abstinence not PMO

 

No matter how much i tought like that. It was just a matter of time i would relapse or yearn more hookers. For me its all or nothing.

 

Great attitude, as long as you commit to it you will in the end experience results and satisfaction
All the best!

 

you just inspired a newbie like me...