Back again, god this is difficult.

im back again for the umpteenth time. longest streak i managed was 28 days, since then binged and ingnored the fact that i didnt need it and slowly went back to exactly what i was before. im on day 14 today. i know its something i need to do. just a question really, after ive been stuck in this loop since i was around 11 or 12 im 31 now, so a very very long time. Does anybody else report feelings of intimidation being around real women. not just beautiful ones but any in general. i seem to have zero confidence around women at all. even just saying hello or being in the same room as any.
your thoughts are appreciated. thanks

 

yup...pretty much the common theme in here. I think that most of us in here including myself are joining nofap in hopes to become better at connecting with women IRL. Whether we are single or in a relationship, we are isolating ourselves by continuing this addiction. I've been clean for 8 weeks and still am quite uncomfortable around the opposite sex. But I also have social anxiety and feel nervous around other guys too. The positive that I've experienced is that I'm now acknowledging my problem and trying to find ways to solve it instead of escaping to porn. I feel that things are slowly getting better, so my advice to you is to stick with it and be patient while also being proactive.

Good luck!

 

thanks for the replies guys. its good to talk with people going through the same. i think i have zero self esteem also. i hate my hair as its kind of balding, i hate my physique and hate me looks. im pretty sure its because most of the guys in the porn are generally pretty ripped. but yea when im around women or any look at me i immediately think yea shes too good for me. and that theres no possible reason on earth why any good looking women would want to be with me. despite being quite good looking in reality and pretty talented. i think the porn has just driven every ounce of esteem out of me.

 

im not sure really, i seem to live my life worrying what others think. any tips for overcoming this? maybe powerful affirmations? esteem is crucial. i used to dj at clubs. i was very confident, but these days it seems to have vanished, and im struggling to claw it back. thanks

 

thanks guys. appreciate the replies i really do.