Poll - Do you wish your parents told you PMO was bad for you

Of all the comments so far, yours is the closest to my own experience @zig. Before I started masturbating, I had already been told that masturbation and porn was bad, for a Christian. I didn't have a problem with the content of this message and I agreed with it cooperated with it as far as porn was concerned. I saw no porn until I was 41 or 42. Masturbation was not regarded by them as so serious as porn, but still bad nevertheless. However, when I got my first erection, aged 13, I just had to know what it felt like. I mean, just once wouldn't hurt, right? That night my career as a wanker was sealed. I do not think they could have done much more to prepare me for the temptation of masturbation. Therefore, I have to take responsibility for my decision to try masturbation and 30 years later to start watching porn. I only have myself to blame.

 

not many teenagers would listen to their parents, even if they did warn about fap

 

I'm from a catholic family. My parents were very uncomfortable talking about sex altogether. They once found a few pics on my hard drive, before high-speed videos came out. My dad just told me "putting your penis in a woman's mouth is not love", and that was it. I kept collecting pics and videos. When I discovered NoFap, I trashed everything... twice, because I made a new collection later on. Then it was high-speed videos that could be accessed any time.

It's not my parents' fault. They didn't grow up around that level of technology and stimulation. How could they understand? I mean, society as a whole was unprepared for global-scale high-speed Internet porn. All we can do is learn from what science has shown and take lessons from our own experience.

 

That why it was bad. I wish they were more sex positive. I found women and their bodies beautiful yet I was told their bodies were bad. So my question was why is it so bad when it's so beautiful. I wish they had said that there was nothing wrong with sex or finding women attractive, but PMO was bad because it will cause me to view women in a bad way and it will cause to live an unfulfilling life.

 

Yes, l wish my parents told me about porn. I was addicted for over 13 years. But now am help others to overcome porn as well.
What l will say to the community is this, the first step to overcoming porn addiction is willingness to change. That to me is the best advice l will offer those that seeking freedom.
Regards
Elisha

 

My parents didn't tell me explicitly because it was taboo to go near sex things. That's why I discovered sex by myself and it was damn internet porn. I wish my parents told me and the most important I wish I didn't have internet until 25 years old.

 

The first porn I looked at was my stepdads, and then I found my biological dad's stash when I went there too. My dad found out and told me I shouldn't look at porn... but even a 14 year old knows hypocrisy when he sees it. I had zero respect for either of them.

I respected my mom and I would have at least strongly considered her advice, but shes a super progressive type person who bought into the whole sexual revolution claptrap.

I think what I needed was a father who both set an example and was forthright about porn. I think even before the more modern understanding of porn as an addiction, a solid moral case could be made. I was a relatively cautious kid, and I might have listened.

Then again, maybe I wouldnt have. Still, I know my responsibility as a parent is to be the father I wish I had had.

 

I second you on wanting to be the father ours never were... I still love my father but he has screwed my family over a lot, and he was into porn before he left my mother. My mother didn't even want him to leave, after he told her he didn't love her, after he told her he wasn't Christian anymore and was faking it for years after he had already given it up, my mother still loves him... I just wait for the day he realizes what he did and I'd love for him to come back to us... I want to have kids sometime and be the father I didn't have.

 

They told me. Church told me.

Not that I listened. Some things we learn for ourselves, the hard way. Difficult isn't always "wrong", though. We are on earth as imperfect beings and that's the place where we can mess up but still be saved by faith in Jesus.

 

Sure, I wish they had stopped me or had told me about it etc., but you have to understand: A lot of parents grew up during the 70s and 80s, when internet porn wasn't a thing. I can't fault them for not existing in the same time period, nor can I dwell on past what-ifs.