[21-CHALLENGE] THE TWENTY ONE DAYS CHALLENGE !

@2525 I have an idea for a new challenge. It would be one for the 'second half' of the 90 days reboot - so a count-up to 90 days, but only for those who are already on at least a 45 days streak. From experience, I know that relapses can often occur past or around the half way mark, perhaps when we get complacent and assume we're over the worst of the urges.

So a 'second half' challenge would cater to those of us who already have a few solid weeks of no-PMO. Also by being exclusive, it would be a natural progression to the 7, 14, 21 and 30 days challenges, and would be good encouragement for people to try to reach the '45 days and over' club. (I'm aware this currently excludes me too, so I'd only join once I hit 45 days.)

What do you think? Happy to make it myself, but thought I'd offer you the honours because you're so good at running the challenges already.

 

day 9/21
My update: woke up late in the morning (on Sunday i usually wake up late), went for mass, after church i cooked , in the evenings got some sleep and woke up at night to do some school work, just from finishing my school work and now am updating you.

 

I can't imagine that i will relapse after this duration! I Just relapsed, yes shameful, no need for details. I feel so angry. In my second day in this challenge and in my life record (28 days).. I feel so so bad. Crying from inside. This is my first relapse since I started nofap.
I was closer to my freedom, mind rewiring and new life ... oh god.

Day (0) zero

 

I am sorry to hear that. I would say 28 is a good start, at the end of the day you won your life back for those 28 days. Every single day is a win. I look forward to you breaking this record and going even further still. Chill and stay strong.

 

Yesterday went with lot of work and small travel. Met a woman with whom I have a crush. When I was on PMO I had masturbated thinking her several times. But, I never talked with her due to poor confidence level. But, yesterday I faced her easily and she smiled at me. She showed some interest in talking with me. She also has some crush on me, I can realise it. I talked with her with confidence. No urge or erection occurred. I realised the power of no PMO. I had night time erections. But I feel good and maintaining No PMO.

 

Day 19: done.
Day 20: In progress...

 

Day 3 . Hakuna matata

 

Day 2 - No PMO
Struggling a little because University stuff is hard to understand. Urges are not really strong right now.

 

Thank you @ahmedgoodlad, feeling so fragile after relapse.
I need may days back ,
I need my happiness back.
I need my mind clarity back.
Really i feel that I need a therapy. Just sitting stand still.

 

Day 17 complete.
Day 18 in progress.

 

Day 11/21 is done. Met my therapist today. Did quite a bit of unpacking about the past... but I'm optimistic about my future.

 

Day 2/21 Done

 

Day 2/21. Up at 5am to write some uni work

 

... day 9 ...

 

One out of 3 weeks done.

Although I'm holding back urges pretty good I just don't feel the same motivation as when I started doing Nofap. The thing is that when I started, I had more motivation but I couldn't hold back the urges at all. Now I have less motivation but I can hold back way easier haha.

I'm having Autumn break soon and we'll have lots of exams so I'll have less time.. But that's actually good because I won't have time to think about PMO.

See ya.

 

Pretty good day today, I read a lot.

4 days down, 17 to go.

 

Day 1/21

 

10/21
My update; was at school the whole day, in the evening came back home, eat,slept, woke up and did school work. and now am updating you.
The female sex seems more attractive now (am currently experiencing high levels of attraction to women).

 

Day 17/21.
I haven't posted in a while. I've had some struggles but mostly doing ok. I had a strong three day depression stage but I have gone through it. Now the confidence is still up, eye contact is good and I am doing way better with girls. What is really amazing is my general confidence, power and clearer mind.
I am having a very strong libido though, I had a pseudorelapse a few days back when I installed Tinder again and started swiping like crazy, I really wanted to hook up with someone. I am whatsapping with like 3 girls now but I found that the stimulus from Tinder was similar to porn, it made my brain think and act in the same way, so I deleted the app. My biggest struggle right now is that I really want to have sex but I know I will probably O and that it will not allow me to reset my brain. Is this same need for sex and objectifying girls that I am trying to reset as well.
I actually had a wet dream yesterday in which I looked at porn and my brain acted in the same anxious/guilt/do it/don't do it way, probably induced by the Tinder and overstimulus from the girls I talked with.

Be strong everyone! We can do this!

 

Day 1 completed. Not very easy like other day 1, feel like the effect of last relapse is still here.