How do you deal with urges?

A lot of us probably have different strategies... something I do is try to retain self-awareness on some level and pray/talk through the situation. Urges tend to incline us to have tunnel-vision, like only the pleasure in the moment is thought about. So I try to make myself think about how if I give in to that urge and start to look at P, I will be restless for the rest of the day, I will reset my counter, I will be upset at myself after and distant from others, etc.

In addition to that, we have to realize that the presence of an urge itself has a corruptible effect on the mind if we let it sit there. So you need to address it briefly but don't sit there indecisive debating whether you should give into it, or keep thinking about it listing reasons why you shouldn't. Confidently address it and then turn your mind to something else and get on with your day. There's definitely a lot more to say but that is what just popped into my head for this post.

 

Well i am not very good at it since most times i couldnt find a perfect strategy and always end up relapsing, but since it was before i meet NoFap i would give you some tips others are using and i am copying : deep breaths will help you relax, physical exercise will help you forget, music will help you too but not so much.

 

take cold shower(be careful not catching cold, put some water in your mouth to keep temp of body)
urges gives you pleasure, try to seek some other good pleasures, like good food instead/nice workout/watch movie
focus on someone, you might have crush on someone( dont be pervert) but try to give more attention to get her

 

Think of it as a process where you are going to change your self. Do not look for some abstract technique or trick... this might only serve to reinforce the habit [in my opinion].

There is no one technique that is going to be the magic bullet when the overwhelming urge strikes. What you need to do is work on reducing the urge to the point where you are once again in control... give yourself a timeline, develop resiliency, develop an interest to distract yourself.

I have yet to think of a name for my approach... but it has worked for me.

 

Keep myself busy with other things. Exercise, work or hanging out with friends

 

I'm writing out my rewards and costs cards as I write this. You got to realize what you want and go for it. Don't give up. Learn

 

Our religion suggests us fasting in order not to be urges. Fasting indeed lower sexual energy very much sexual urges. Fasting somedays is good...

 

I take a pair of dumbbells that I have in my room and I curl them, or I go do some pullups.

 

Fill a cup with ice cold water. Put your junk in the cup.

 

I kind of do self talk. I tell my self even though it will feel great at the moment it makes me feel horrible afterwards and I don't want that feeling.

I also keep myself busy like others have suggested with by doing work outs, playing games, read a book, watch movies, go outside, etc.

 

Try to workout ( like a hard one ..... do spiderman pushups or somethin like that) .... to develop control over your thoughts is much better and you can do that by meditating