Relapsing after 34 days of Nofap

Well, there are no rules and regulations except those you set for yourself !

But, first of all: A streak of 34 days is great, so book this on the "plus" side of your life!
I had a similar streak this year, and it was one of the best times in my life! So, see the positive side!

Then, for NOW, try to recover and to catch up. As you say, often a relapse leads to more relapses (binging), so focus now on catching up.

I personally don't like the counter so much, because it tends to ruin the overall picture. Every reset makes you look like a loser, while in fact you make overall progress.

Possibly make a BIG picture, give it 34 green marks and one grey mark.

And try to learn from the relapse. A relapse just tells you that you have not been attentive enough. So what happened in the time before the relapse? There is a big rooted reason for PMO, and this is where we should work on.

 

this is not a failure. this belongs to your recovery-process. you have been 34 days abstinent - in this time your brain/mind cured itself for sure. imagine how many porn-movies you would have watched in this time.

in my opinion restart yor badge - start a new streak and beat 34 days.

good luck.

 

Whatever you do...do not binge.

Your progress is not lost at all. I know exactly how you feel right now, you brain will start to rationalize and try to convince you that you did loose all your progress so "what the hell right? Fuck it, i'm gonna binge". This can last for up to 2-3 days.

Don't binge.

The best thing I could recommend you right now is to get rid of the counters and stop counting for a while, focus on others areas that you need to work on. You can set a counter again later if you want.

I chose to get rid of my counters after a relapse on day 47, it was the best decision I made. Now I'm around 45 days clean, time went by real fast because I was focusing all my energy on my new routines.

Good luck bro

 

Relapsing and not binging is also a kind of victory to be proud of so maybe that can be a supplementary goal.

 

Very true, good analysis. That's why I also don't like that kind of counter. It makes you look like a big loser when you relapse once in a month, while in fact you made real overall progress. And when you feel like a loser, then you binge. The constant resetting of the counter is like sysiphos who is rolling the rock up the hill.

Yes, indeed, the real solution is to look forward and not just to focus on counting and abstinence. Instead, focus on NEW BEHAVIOUR, new routines, living a really meaningful life.

My biggest streak was this spring when I was TOTALLY FORWARD. I had a vision, I was committed, and I had no "Plan B". This way, I went for about 7 weeks. Only then, I lost attention, and I fell back into old behaviour. Therefore, the most important point is to have a real focus to new things and to go on forward all time.