is this a relapse.

I'd say no but very close. You didn't watch but you were in the zone. If you're anything like me, then if you do that once or twice more you will end up relapsing.

 

It's all about intent. If you intentionally seek out pleasurable forms if stimuli, regardless if it's visual, aural, or whatever, for self-pleasure you are going against a pledge to reboot.

Dust yourself off, reset the counter, and start over.

 

It's a difficult one, you didn't view any porn pictures and just the titles, you didn't orgasm- was the pre-cum as a result of just reading porn titles or were you touching yourself/edging? If you were touching yourself or masturbating without orgasm I would say yes it's a relapse and you should reset to draw a line under it.

Either way, this was dangerous, triggering behaviour and indulging it will more than likely lead to relapse.

 

I think it's not a reset. Didn't go through with it. If an alcoholic went into a bar but left and didn't drink realising the damage it would cause would you say they had relapsed?

It's not wise or helpful but it's a good sign that he resisted.