Relapsing too easily

eat your vegetables

 

I'm on 5th day too and I feel almost no urge. Doing exercises and being on a healthy diet helps A LOT. You should also try to focus on other activities or hobby. It's weird to say but I'm finding myself gardening more often lately and I read more, that is caused by NoFap (have more time and energy) but at the same time helps me to stay away from PMO. In short: keep youself busy! Hope this helps.

 

You know why? Because porn is fun to look at and jacking off feels good. I did it all the time. It was my adopted stress release beginning with a most emotionally abused family life growing up. I just carried it deep into adulthood. But boy does it have unrealized consequences. You don't get girls, success , or a sense of strength. Just shame and weakness. You never fulfill your real destiny. Fight those urges and read up on these great guys sharing their insights. Profound stuff here on nofap.

 

Great reply, zadvanceppa. Spot on and very profound!!!

 

I know this too good.

Whenever I was successful, then it was when I had a very clear vision. When I had setup a program for myself, when I followed that program.

I find that I PMO when I in fact have some bigger issue waiting for me. I escape from handling this issue via PMO, or even with other kind of wasting my time.

 

The best way I've experienced when the temptations get really strong is try to really experience what the temptations feel like. It's kind of hard to explain but if you just really pay attention to what it feels like when the temptations and feelings are there. If you can understand the feelings then you can beat them.

That and pushups - do them till your arms hurt

 

That's right. When you try to "describe" it, then you see that the urge is like a ghost, in fact there is nothing.

If the urge is there, then I can also recommend to "wait 3 minutes". And then relax. Lie down on your back. Astoundingly, the urge, which was "extremely urgent" just 3 minutes ago, suddenly fades away - it appears to be a ghost to our mind.

 

I've found it really helpful to visualise this not as a moral or pychological conflict but just as a bunch of chemicals that are released and absorbed. I am not a slave of my neurochemicals - I am me and will decide what to do and not do. These chemical processes are a feature of the primative reward cycle that still thinks we live in caves and have to copulate every chance we get (and eat as much food as we can shovel in). However society has moved on and now there is no longer any real shortage of food (at least where I live) and what my primative brain still thinks are mating opportunities on the internet are doing me real harm. Society has changed but the neurochemical hardware has still to catch up. So you have to decide who's in charge and "reclaim your brain".

Mean Genes: From Sex to Money to Food - Taming Our Primal Instincts by Terry Burnham and Jay Phelan gives a lot more science and practical tips

http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_sb...eywords=mean genes&sprefix=mean+genes,aps,293

Hope that goes some way towards a way of thinking that might help. Good luck.