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My death grip possibly cured after 6 months. Thank you nofap!

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by troyan, Aug 7, 2017.

  1. Kaneki123

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    I'm curious because I'm not sure if I have death grip or not, does your dick head feel numb? Like barely any sensitivity at all. Also, were you able to get erections? Solid, lasting ones? Because I can't and I don't think you actually can with a desensitised dick. Just curious
     
  2. Xevip

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    are you saying, you had to M 3 hours to ejaculate?
    The reason i ask is " I think I also have death grip, but with M I can easily ejaculate within 10 mins.
    Also what is the way to verify you have been cured? S with actual girl?
     
  3. TheFutureMe

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    I'm saying I needed 3 hours sex to have the slightest chance of O. Most times I still needed to finish myself off by hand with them. One of the symptoms involved very little sensations on the penis, I suppose it grew so accustommed to be stimulated in "the perfect (for it)" way, that nothing else than my hand would be able to finish the job and get me there. Of course there are more thnigs involved in this process, like the heightened stimulation threshold that you need to reach to O, etc. But the desensitization was extreme. Curiously enough, I sometimes even went from "I'm erect but don't really feel anything at all" to "this fucking hurts now" after a couple of hours.

    Mind you, when behind my computer with my P, I could O in less than an hour if I found the right stimulation. But that could be hard to find sometimes. Just before I started NoFap, that stimulation involved so much extreme stuff it had become scary, so far from things that I actually want and think I like that it helped me realize I was on a slippery slope. (and have been for decades).

    I suppose being cured from Delayed Ejaculation is when you can O in a timely manner (for you and your partner) while enjoying what you do and not being scared to not O or not feel, etc. So yeah, with an actual girl would be the best. Keep in mind the first time you will probably get performance anxiety, and it could get in the way of your verification. That's why I insist on the fact that you shouldn't think about "checking", but rather enjoying what you're doing - as it's the most natural way to do it anyway ;) We're not machines!
     
  4. troyan

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    I think if you have death grip, it doesn't really matter if you can't orgasm in 1 hour, chances are you won' in 3 hours as well. If you don't have enough sensation, it is not a matter of time anymore. I also "had" death grip and I could orgasm in 10 minutes with M. I had to watch P and go really fast. But by using death grip, it completely desensitized the head and that way I could go for 1-2hours.

    I'm not sure how much erections have to do with death grip. When I was death gripping, I could have solid rock hard erections for 2-3 hours. Even now when using condom during sex, I don't feel that much yet, but I can keep erection all the time. I think erection is triggered by physical and/or visual stimulation.
     
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  5. my glands, skin turned white from so many years. is that what you mean, the skin will turn pink again, if you some things on it?
     
  6. Minciak

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    Can you please specify these oils? Thank you!
     
  7. troyan

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    People mostly use coconut oil on skin, or sometimes olive oil, also shea butter.
     
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  8. troyan

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    An update from the last time:

    I have gained a lot of sensitivity back on the dorsal side of the penis / glans in the last 2-3 months. I support NoFap, but still something tells me to regain sensitivity, you should lightly stimulate (i'm not saying M) the penis. In my opinion, the best is once a week, or once per two weeks, or once a month. But the initial 3 months of nofap worked superb, like I wrote many times. I was always using a mix of eucerin/man1man oil during the night, and during the day a little bit of coconut oil. But I am always reducing the usage by a little every month, to allow the penis / glans to have it's own oil/smegma production. I have had dryness problems because I was cut.

    And I think I can confirm that death grip causes little scars (microscars) on the penis, and that results in the scar tissue and/or callous being created on top of very sensitive tissue. This is how we lose the feeling. I was at the doctor, and she examined my penis, and I got "Tacrolimus ointment" or "Protopic", it's a drug to heal some specific skin issues and also dangerous for long term use, so it is available by prescription only. Other thing the doctor recommended me is Vea Lipogel, to minimize the appearance of the microscars. This I got about 2 months ago, and since then I got back a lot of sensitivity on the dorsal side. It might be related, if anyone wants to try. As always I'm only sharing my experience, my story, in hope it helps somebody with same issues.

    Also I'm continuing foreskin restoration, this is the best decision I made in my life. It will take a lot of time, but the end result will be worth it. If anyone else who is cut wants to improve their sensitivity, look up on reddit, there is a member Hardacroposthion, and also lookup my posts on foreskin restoration, my username there is troyan2.

    That's about it, maybe I report back this year again :D
     
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  9. pss97

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    Hi there. How did you apply the VEA lipogel? Did you combine it with the oils you were previously using, or just by itself?
     
  10. ReclaimedLife

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    I am inspired with what you wrote. While i am not in a state as bad as you are, there is still a strong need and will to improve, just for myself to have a more beautiful sexual life.
    I am going to get the coconut oil and start doing really light touches, not really masturbation, which is so much closer to having beautiful sex and will induce a healing, not just for my dick, but also for my mind, which is as important as for my dick.

    With the last girl i was with, the sex was great, but too inconsistent, and with a mix of me being a bit on the thinner side and she having a regular pussy where she was feeling more with 3 fingers then 2, combined with my lowered feelings and always using a condom, it really only worked because i knew which positions make her tighter and when i wasnt using them, i didnt really feel much.

    And i dont want to have to be afraid and wonder about how tight or normal a girls pussy is when i meet her, sometimes everything about a girl is just amazing before you start having sex.
    And if there is anything i can do to increase my own pleasure, it will subsequentially increase hers as well.

    Thank you so so much for giving me this detailed description and a way to treat myself.
     
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  11. What is your Acetyl L Carnitine dosage? I used to take 400mg pills back in the days. Right now I can only find 1000mg tabs but I wonder if it is not too much.

    Also combine Acetyl L Carnitine with L-arginine. Helps for blood flow and ED (/DE).

    Concerning oils, I do not recommend man1man oil. You can get the same ingredients for much cheaper: vitamin E oil, shea butter, cocoa butter (good but melts at higher temperature so not so convenient and coconut oil).

    My favorite is shea butter. It is full of antioxidants and is very potent against bateria. It has a particular smell but not too strong and you get used to it. It melts OK and is extremely moisturizing and long lasting. It is not greasy and is quickly absorbed.

    Vitamin E oil ane coconut oil are too greasy. Vitamin E oil can also be very thick.

    Edit: you need to get 100% unrefined shea butter, not the processed one or the one that comes in a lotion.
     
  12. ReclaimedLife

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    I am going to try coconut oil for now and will melt it in the microwave and then when its warm apply, or trying to apply it raw. I am going to try it for a bit and if i dont see any effect will switch to shea butter, to see if i see a difference.
    Remember, it isnt meant to moisturize, its meant to cleanse the old layers of skin that doesn't have much feeling in it anymore.
     
  13. Exactly. That's why I think shea butter is the best. It has a high concentration of antioxidants which helps the penis and skin heal from deathgrip damage. I've done a bunch of research about it back then. Moisturizing is really important too because it makes the skin softer and healthy versus all dried up damaged skin.

    Anyway, all these options are good. Coconut and cocoa smell best. Coconut is greasy but it melts at a low temperature so you won't even need to mocrowave it. It will melt in your hands instantly. Make sure tp buy pure coconut oil.
     
  14. RollerCoaster

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    Is shea butter real or just placebo? It sounds too good to believe lol
     
  15. I don't understand your question. It's for real man. Been using it like crazy and I got all the other oils at home so I know what I'm talking about :)

    Just make your own research online and you'll see. Their properties are a bit different. Look em up and chose what is best for you.

    Ultimately they all are similar and it won't heal your penis overnight. The major factor of recovery is definitely nofap.
     
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  16. ReclaimedLife

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    I bought extra native bio coconut oil, that should be good to start with. But one more question. Am i supposed to wipe it off? Do i leave it on? It would be great if you could give a detailed description...

    Also, i've heard i am not supposed to masturbate while on nofap, so while i am quitting porn, how do i implement this without cheating? I cant stretch or generally touch it without any reaction...
    And i dont want to mess up my recovery process while still integrating the active healing techniques for the deathgrip.

    You have already been a great help!
     
  17. Your oil looks good. If it's pure organic and unrefined its perfect.

    You're not supposed to mssturbate. Of your dick is really sensitive then I don't think you need to use oils in the first place.

    The main goal is to not PMO. So if you are going to feel ever slightly tempted to PM, don't use the oils. I ruined a 52 day streak by "rubbing the oil" too confidently and it ended bad.

    Of you are sure you wanna do this then try to just apply the oil quickly in like 30 seconds by rubbing your dick in a non sexual fashion just as if you were cleaning it. Because coconut oil is a bit greasy I'd wait a few minutes naked so the oil can be absorbed by the skin. Once it's absorbed you can just put your pants back on. I don't think you need to wipe unless you put too much and it's dripping and stuff like that.
     
  18. ReclaimedLife

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    Thanks a lot for the quick advice. I've had my first time about half a year ago and were able to have around 20-30min of sexual intercourse with an orgasm at the end, but i still could feel that i didnt feel that much. And the timss after that were all shorter and much less intense, and sometimes i couldnt even stay hard, i felt really bad.
    If can i improve my sensitivity in any way, every girl and myself will benefit from that.

    Thanks again for helping me start my journey, yyou are a champ!
     
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  19. Coolyorky

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    I’ve got Ed. I received a bj New Years and the sensation isn’t 100%. Things have been improved with Nofap.

    Death grip is something I’ve no thought of. Maybe the desensitisation is causing/contributing to the Ed? Any advice would be much appreciated
     
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  20. I used to have ED (loss of erection) + DE. ED was because of performande anxiety and mental desensitization . DE was because of deathgrip, edging and pretty much physical penile desensitization.

    All I can say is to have sex with a girl you feel absolutely comfortable with and who makes you feel like a man and to abstain from PMO.

    PS: I still have ED and DE. Relapsed big time years ago and never made it out of the hole ever again.
     

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