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My Mind is Freaking Out

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by LightningBolts, Oct 29, 2017.

  1. LightningBolts

    LightningBolts Fapstronaut

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    My mind is literally having a temper tantrum right now because I keep saying no when it wants me to say yes. Everything inside me wants me to do it but I must keep fighting!!! No matter how good porn sounds right now I am not going to do it. Why give up now. I mean I feel like wanting to but then I would just go back to being depressed and feel like shit and writing posts about how I am a failure. I am on day 8. The last time I got here I failed and I am not going to do it this time. I just feel like no matter how many times I say no it will just keep saying oh come on one more time. No its not worth it. Why waste my pleasure on a fucking porno when I could go find a real girl to have pleasure with by being in love with her. Anybody know how I feel right now. How did you guys deal with this?
     
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  2. Tripp2

    Tripp2 Fapstronaut

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    Im in the EXACT same spot on the exact same day, and best I can say is, DISTRACTIONS, DISTRACTIONS, DISTRACTIONS. Also, stay on yhe forumn as much as possible. The urge does fade with time. We just have to hold on till it does mate
     
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  3. Arohamystic

    Arohamystic Fapstronaut

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    I understand what you are going through - I have been going through a similar thought pattern myself today.

    Firstly, I think getting caught in a 'no, yes, no yes' pattern can be extremely tiring and ultimately cause a relapse. I think it is better to try to step back from your thought patterns and observe them as a bystander (not personally interact with them).
    For example, if your brain gives an argument about why you should view porn, you can step back and observe this thought. "My brain is saying this. That's interesting. However it doesn't have any impact on my decision to not view porn."

    Secondly, I have been telling myself that I have already had the experience of viewing porn, and the depressive after-effects of viewing it. I don't need to have these experiences again, ever. My goal now is to have the experience of being PMO free for a prolonged period of time. I have not experienced this before and I want to see how it will improve my life. If I keep viewing porn then I will be denying myself this experience.

    These are just some basic ideas - I'm sure some more experienced Fapstronauts will have other ones.
    All the best!
     
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  4. Ready to be healthy

    Ready to be healthy Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Hang in there! 8 days is a great streak and a really good start to a new PMO free life! You can do this! Just remember it's only fleeting and superficial urges that want you to give in- the real you does not want to do it! Be strong- take a cold shower, go for a long walk. spend time with relatives- AVOID browsing the web alone etc

    Use the panic button also if you need to! Only you have the power and control, you decide it's not going to happen :)
     
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  5. LightningBolts

    LightningBolts Fapstronaut

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  6. Opportunity For Better

    Opportunity For Better Fapstronaut

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    Stop arguing with your mind. All you do when you say "no" is give it the chance to counter-argue. Ignore it and go focus on something else.
     

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