I feel bad!!! I need help!!! Pls reply to me!!!

Don't feel bad. Don't feel ashamed. You've made a mistake. Learn from it and move on. If it helps (which it will!!!), take part in the nofap challenge and get porn out of you life for good. keep off the porn sites, dude. Stay strong, mate. What you're going through is a temporary blip. Life has lots of them. They will pass, friend. Hope you stick around.

 

You've admitted you have a problem. That's a big step. Now do something about it.

I'm convinced you can't do this alone. I lean heavily on God, but it's also comforting to know that I've got this community and a brotherhood in real life that will hold me accountable. I would encourage you to first seek first God, but also to seek out brothers who will lift you up and speak truth to you in love. This site is a great place to start.

I wish you the best of luck. May God bless you.

 

I consider PMO an addiction and having abstained from alcoholic drinking since 1995 I use the same methods to abstain from PMO. I surrender at depth to the reality that PMO is not a part of my life anymore and this is unconditional. It does not depend on me getting away from it easily, it means I go to any lengths necessary to avoid PMO. Any lengths necessary means putting up with the pain of withdrawal even should that last for the rest of my life. It is futile to expect or demand that withdrawal will be easily managed, because it will not. But that is no excuse or reason that I should indulge any form of PMO. If I am honestly willing to go to any lengths necessary to quit then I find I have triumphed.

 

Hello pauljohn. You've admitted the problem and asking for help, and that's a good decision you've done. I know it's not going to be easy for you, but you have to stop visiting those websites and using skype as a method for self-gratification. Instead, focus on other things. I agree with our fellows here: Join the nofap challenge so that you can rebuild yourself again. This is a good place to start and I can honestly say that this community is supportive.

Seek help from people you know - family, friends, church, counselors. Reconnect with God through prayer - this really helps man. God bless you.

 

Make it your goal to get to 24 hrs since your last moment of PMO. Then celebrate. Buy a snicker, get ice cream, or just jump with joy and say woo-hoo. Then, set your goal to make another 24 hrs. I read somewhere that even saying no once, is a significant victory. So say no once, then again, then again....

 

And I understand feeling suicidal. You're talking to someone who is 26 yrs deep. I have PMO'd at work, in a car, in a car on the way to work, in a car on the way home from work, in bathrooms all over the city and work included. In the daytime, at night, hungry, tired after 8+hrs surfing and have to be at work in one hr, with kids in the other room, with kids in the room but computer screen angled so they can't see. Dude, my list goes on. I'm ashamed as hell. Did anybody see me up at night with the bright computer screen in a dark room looking into my window from the outside? You can't worry about that. Just concentrate on the first 24, then the next, then the next...

 

Hang in there man. This is compulsive behaviour and can be beaten. It will take time and effort though. You signing up on this website and confesing something like this is a strong indication of your will to break free.

I have addictions similar to yourself and hence have the same fears. The first thing you need to do is to reduce your dependence on this and that can be done by some positive methods like involving yourself in other activities, spending time outside with friends etc. and some negative methods like disconnecting your computer or internet connection for a period of time. Maybe blocking it off in a way that you have to ask a friend for a password to get back on. These might seem drastic but they're temporary and not as bad as they sound or seem in the long run. Something simpler is to destroy the identity you use to connect to these sites (email addresses, skype accounts etc.).

Now you have a clean slate and can start abstaining. Get a counter similar to the one in signature and set up a challenge for yourself (e.g. no PMO for a week). Start a journal here and update it atleast once a day describing your thoughts. Forcing yourself to come out in the open with what you've done or are feeling will help overcome the urges. They'll peak and that'll be a rough spell but after that, it'll start to subside and your brain will get back to normal.

 

I agree with this very much. I am an addict to masturbation and have not 1 positive reason to ever go back to it. It is not healthy for me. I know my continued use of it as a stress release or whatever, will destroy my life. It never can enter my life again. It may take a yr. for the urge and discomfort to ease. Maybe longer since it has been so much of my life for so long. I'm 52. What I once believed was a normal male right, has now been cased as my worst enemy. Thanks for your posts