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I hate This

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Yusuke7711, Nov 1, 2017.

  1. Nov 1, 2017 #1
    Yusuke7711

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    I just wanted to post something to vent before I screw myself over further with my studies. I hate not being in a relationship with someone and I hate seeing everyone around me, friend or not, in a relationship. And if I ever do get into a relationship I feel like I would be getting into one for the wrong reasons given the fact that I feel like I lust for sex instead of a genuine, honest connection with someone and I hate that. I feel like something is wrong in my head and this rebooting process is hard for me as I find one excuse to break it after having a though day/week. It sucks. i just think if I was with someone in a meaningful relationship maybe everything would be easier as well being more focused and better at school. I really don't know what to do or feel anymore.
     
    Yusuke7711, Nov 1, 2017
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  2. Nov 1, 2017 #2
    ethan12

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    I feel the same thing. I really want to love someone in a genuine way, but I can't. It's always lust instead of love. I'm hoping rebooting will help me with this.
     
    ethan12, Nov 1, 2017
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  3. Nov 2, 2017 #3
    Empty Red Cloud

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    Overtime we discover our true selves when we don't obsess over this fantasy world of porn. Then we can offer who we really are to someone we care about. Right now our mind is so polluted with Porn that we can only give anyone a false image of ourselves.
     
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  4. Nov 2, 2017 #4
    TotalLifeChange

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    In my opinion (and personal experience) you are projecting your inability to complete the challenge on external circumstances, such as having a girlfriend. You have to unclutter your thoughts.

    Having a girlfriend would be nice? Sure.

    Having a girlfriend is necessary to overcome PMO? No. In fact, there are tons of people in this forum who are in relationships.

    Be open to a relationship, but better yourself in the meantime.
     
    TotalLifeChange, Nov 2, 2017
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  5. Nov 3, 2017 #5
    lamstronger

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    A relationship shouldn't be the reason you're happy. Work on your streak for now, improve your self esteem, social skills. Keep yourself busy, so you don't think about others and PMO. Learn to enjoy your company.
     
    lamstronger, Nov 3, 2017
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  6. Nov 5, 2017 #6
    Yusuke7711

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    Thanks guys I appreciate it! I'll work harder to improve myself and try to think mainly on the challenge I have now. I'll won't beat myself up things in the past and I won't make excuses for things that I can change for the better.
     
    Yusuke7711, Nov 5, 2017
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