Being alone is the biggest challenge

Hey, I noticed the same. My heart starts to race then I realize I’m not doing it....I miss the good old pleasure but can’t do anything :/ In these cases I turn on some music or start to watch series to distract my mind. Wish you the best

 

I know the feeling. I live alone. In the beginning when I quit I was feeling like crap when going home alone, I was so lonely. I was just in a blur for along time, hard time concentrating, crying etc. But I made myself busy socially, I started to write, I started to write more, write here and reading what people say. Trying to stay away from Facebook, Instagram etc. But basically just getting more out there. Also training more, jogging. I guess you just have to find what works for you. But when you feel that urge take some push ups, go for a run, stay busy, just don't let those thoughts get to you and making you feel lost. It's hard, but you have to do it to stop the urges. Fortunately, the urges don't stay for too long and after awhile keeping busy, at least for me, I didn't feel so alone anymore. Hope I can be of help!

 

Yeah, this is a hard one. I'd suggest getting into new habits you feel like you can only do when you're alone, like playing an instrument loudly or listening to loud music. Things that would annoy people if they were around. In fact, maybe even give yourself an activity you enjoy that you'll only do when there are no people around, even if it's not something that would annoy people. That way, you'll be missing those activities while people are around, and once they're gone you'll crave those activities instead of PMO.
I know it's not perfect, and of course you'll still feel some urges, but that's the best advice I can give.

 

The #1 thing I can recommend is getting out into the world. Go outside, go to a cafe, take a run or just take a walk! Bring some headphones with you! Listen to new music (Spotify's Discover Weekly is a favorite of mine) or an existential podcast of some sort! Surround yourself with nature and the sky and, most importantly, people. Even if the most interaction you have is sharing a smile with a stranger walking their dog, or mentioning the weather to the cashier you're ordering a muffin from, it's way better than staying at home by yourself. Plus, by the time you'll get home, you'll feel refreshed and free from urges.

 

Boredom is the enemy, you need to plan tasks to do when you have those alone periods. Personally With two dogs and a child to take care of there's always something to do to keep me occupied.

 

Hi,
I live alone 2, that's what really got me addicted a few years ago :-(
Key is indeed find other useful things to do instead of pmo-ing for hours.
Workout, get out in nature, giving support to people here on NoFap brings a lot of positive feelings back to you and you get also supported ! It's powerful !
Good luck everyone !
Stay strong !

 

Newlers, this is my most challenging aspect as well. When the house is empty--and I am in it--it's historically been masturbation time. I can only imagine how difficult it is if you live alone. You have my respect, it's gotta be tougher for home alone guys. If my wife leaves the house for a couple of hours.....I am in agony lately fighting the urges. As long as she's home...or I am at work, busy....I have NO problem.

Good luck. All I can add is that you have to somehow keep busy. Easier said than done, but it's possibly the only answer.