[30-CHALLENGE] THE THIRTY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Day 2

 

That is what it means isn't it?

 

Well done

 

30 DAYS COMPLETE!!!!!! Guess it's time to move onto the 60 day challenge

 

I've been off the site for a while, so I'm in to reignite my focus. Day 1/30.

 

I’ve seen a few post on here of guys saying they had sex last night. Which is confusing to me, because if I was having sex, I wouldn’t be masturbating in the first place.

Day 17
It’s crazy how you can wake up in the morning and just be so tempted to go at it. But if you ignore the tempter for a few minutes until you wash your Facebook or shower and actually wake up, you get your willpower back. Almost gave in this morning but so glad I didn’t.

 

Yes some guys only abstain from P and M as they be in relationships and abstaining from O is difficult- or they may feel real sex with a real person is not detrimental to there recovery when they abstain from P and M so they don't abstain from O.

As for not masturbating while having sex, I mean no offence but have you had a relationship at all? I can guarantee you 9 out 10 people in relationships still masturbate. You're not always with your partner, they may not be in the mood at the same time as you, there are multiple reasons a person may still masturbate while in a relationship.

The problem only occurs if you find you prefer masturbation alone to being sexual with your partner etc

 

Currently no, that’s actually why I’m on these forums, I realized I’ve been fapping to much. In my past relationship I didn’t have a need to fap. Why use your hand when you have the real thing? I guess that’s why you guys really are addicted. No offense.

But everyone’s different and we all have our own reasons for participating in NoFap.

 

One of Thirty

 

✓ in (day 9)

 

Day 2 completed. Had some urges basically because of my mind wandering off. I really need to get a grip on my mind

 

Day 28 completed. Happy days. Onto day 29 & making great progress towards the end.

*Was really horny last night for the 1st time in a while. My mind gave me wet dream and can actually recall fapping in the dream and having x3 O (went so fast, can imagine its how it would be if I had to relapse, that kind of scene) The stain had such huge mass actually surprized its possible to achieve. Sleeping nude helps however, still change sheets is a must. Lol Sorry for the strange post...

 

Day 19 (+ Day 18 retrospective)

It's okay Love369, nothing strange in your post! Here comes an really long and strange one:

Okay guys, I need to get this out of my chest and move on. I felt yesterday was going to be tough and it was, I eventually masturbated in the shower. It's clear this was a major slip and many here would consider this a relapse. However, there were several factors that came into play and I personally will not be considering this a full-blown relapse, but rather a 'lapse of judgement'.

1. I DID NOT WATCH PORN! For me, NoFap is about staying clear of P, of any kind, for any reason.
In fact, I didn't even think of P. I didn't even fantasize, which is a first for me. I actually enjoyed the physical sensations, literally 'playing' with myself.

2. I did not ejaculate. For me this is very important; I've abused my body for so long I really need to stop spilling my seed. So that's a win there. I know this probably falls in the 'edging' category but I still don't think it's that bad if not done while watching P. I believe P is the enemy, not masturbation per se.

3. It was actually pleasant. This was not the same as the 'pleasure' PMO brings. I felt sexual, yes, but in a new, 'normal' way. It felt natural. Honestly, it felt liberating and yes, healing. The idea that I can have a sexual side that is not totally perverted and I can get excited without hardcore P was a relief, actually.

4. I am honestly afraid to reset my counter. Not that I care so much about the streak or the challenge; I feel if I view this as a relapse and reset, it won't benefit me, I'll probably get frustrated with myself and NoFap and eventually relapse for real. In short, nothing good can come of it. I really need some positive reinforcement right now, not punishing myself for every little misstep.

5. My conscience is clear. I feel no guilt from what I did. In comparison, I always felt guilty as hell when I PMO. Not this time, though (well it wasn't PMO, really). I also never explicitly told myself I won't masturbate under any circumstance. I don't consider masturbation by itself immoral, unnatural or sinful. I know my counter says 'abstaining from PMO' but I feel that refers to the whole PMO cycle, really. I am not on NoFap to quit masturbation, I am here to quit PMO.

I know many of you will condemn me for rationalizing masturbation during a NoFap challenge. I also realize I probably won't be considered as tackling the challenge even if I make it to day 30 with only this slip. I will continue to post here with a clear conscience but if people are offended by that I will probably change my counter to P and O only.

I still plan to go 30 days porn-free and if possible, without ejaculation.

 

@slitebg - Hmmm, It's a tough one because there are my factors and everybody has there own opinion with regards to this action. Personally, to me it does not sound like a relapse.

I think @2525 should advise here though as it is his challenge and another perception that differs from mine and yours.

If need be to start over. I'll scrub my progress signature and tackle it with you brother. Its just a day tracker and not a true progress meeter. Besides I had wicked dreams last night and I'm up for the challenge

 

My last relationship lasted for 5 and half years, I had a great relationship and we were very loving both physically and emotionally, we both still masturbated and that had nothing to do with addiction- your term "why use your hand when you have the real thing" is, in my opinion, quite an immature phrase that some lads use as a "bragging" thing- people masturbate- it's natural (without porn) being in a relationship doesn't change that and as I said, unless you and your partner both live in one room and never leave- they may not always be around etc.

 

Ok

 

Day 1

 

Hi there,

You seem to have a very clear idea of this incident and you don't appear to believe it is a relapse, it is for you to decide of course

Masturbation is a healthy and normal biological process, most guys here who abstain from masturbation only do so as they need to give their hardwired to porn only brains a chance to heal- to respond normally again- it's not about giving up M forever, for some it is though and that is there choice.

As for saying you are doing no PMO- that means you don't watch porn, you don't masturbate and you don't orgasm- in that sense and to be very technical you did relapse in my opinion. You masturbated. I'd say the same if you viewed porn but didn't masturbate or had an orgasm through sex- if you are doing "hard mode" then you abstain from all three- if that is not right for you, re-evaluate and change your counter to say no P or O.

Masturbating without orgasm is in my opinion even worse than just doing it and cumming- you are exposing your brain to a prolonged hit of dopamine which is not good for you- especially if you have not yet recovered from your porn addiction- how long were you addicted?

Honestly masturbation in the early days of NoFap is risky- it's more likely to lead to full blown relapse to porn- that is why guys generally choose not to masturbate- for example- if I was masturbating- I would feel like "I may as well just watch porn anyway" - I do want to re-introduce masturbation without porn one day after my 90 reboot- but for me it wouldn't work now.

 

Short and sweet. I like it

 

Hmm... Some true words spoken! "Mr. Technical"

I also recon what a person believes could shape the reality of the instance or happening and help the rewire progress. Key is to be honest with your being.

Same for me as dreams during "wet dreams" it is another way of being helped along to flush the submind in some way aiding in the long run of healing.