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Want to approach a girl but I just relapsed

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Spermconsumer, Nov 19, 2017.

  1. Spermconsumer

    Spermconsumer Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys,

    As title, sadly I relapsed hours ago because of my fetish/some weird things.
    However these 3 days I keep thinking about approaching and having a conversation with a girl in my class (college).
    I think she attracts me because she seems to be a really active learner during class
    (e.g. asking good questions, taking notes in a way impressing me),
    although I do not deny the fact that for me she looks good:p

    The problem is: I have never done this in my life.
    I am an introverted person and a bit nerdy.
    And I just came to a different country to study.
    We look completely different in a biological way and neither of our native language is English so it is the only way we can communicate. I speak some of her language but very little.

    So I think:
    maybe try something out of my comfort zone is a good idea,
    why not going to approach a girl attracting me?
    It might feel less embarrassed than I do it in where I came from.

    (Before this, I do cold shower/meditation/black coffee/healthy food every day, anything beneficial for my life, even starting exercising which I rarely did.
    But it's just the fact that relapsing today frustrates me so much... so much)

    I almost lost the confidence to do the thing I want to do.

    I think I will see her every Tuesday or Wednesday during lectures.
    Should I wait longer (after a week/weeks) to reboot myself better (better confidence)
    or just take it as an adventure and go to ask her how are you and something like that~?
    Also it might be that she already had a boyfriend/partner so I'm wasting time thinking too much.

    Any suggestion is wonderful and I will appreciate it for sure!
     
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  2. Approach her this week and don't think about your days you will stack it up soon just don't relapse anymore and yes try your chance to approach her in class why not? :^ I wish you GL
     
  3. ali.nf

    ali.nf Fapstronaut

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    Bro the best thing to do is approach her when your on a good streak. Women can sense when your retaining semen as your naturally appear more attractive & confident. I have no science to back this up but it's from personal experience and many guys on here would agree with this. Cold showers are great to build self discipline. Exercising also helps with confidence so you should definitely do that before approaching. Just go up to her when you think it's the right moment and talk to her!, it could be about anything it doesn't matter. Just hold the eye contact, smile & have positive confident body language. Good luck
     
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  4. Keep us updated buddy and keep your days stacked up don't lose your control . Come on buddy you can do this.
     
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  5. Spermconsumer

    Spermconsumer Fapstronaut

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    yeah....The result I think is positive, and we'll have a coffee next week after class:)
    I waited for a week actually and went straight to ask her...
    because I feel that i'm not prepared yet and read a book written by mark manson.

    I cannot believe it struggled me so hard to talk to a stranger...especially when one of her friend is around.
    It felt just like turning on the faucet before cold shower but a bit scarier I guess.

    Thank you all guys' support I appreciate it!
     
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  6. arrow26

    arrow26 Fapstronaut

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    You are welcome :)
     

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