Sex in movies ... How do you do ?

What ass?

 

No, but in all seriousness I just made a thread about this:

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/be-careful-watching-shitty-r-rated-comedies.142127/

It almost sabotaged all my hard work.

 

I’m not one to get triggered easily by sex scenes in movies, so this might not work with everyone. But when there’s a scene and I just can’t avoid it/ am completely caught off guard by it, my mind goes straight to the fact that these people are getting paid to do this in a studio in front of a camera, etc., just rattling off a bunch of facts that sort of squash the idea that there is actually sex (or something sexy) going on.

Or if there’s a scene where a woman is dressed provocatively in an attempt to arouse you, I immediately start thinking of what could have gone wrong in her life that made her want this shallow type of attention, or things of that nature.

I never was one to judge people so harshly in these ways. But when you’re dealing with a reboot, you need to change your mindset anyway.

 

Well, I try not to watch movies with sex scenes or tv shows, cause I never saw the point in having them there at all. But If it comes up in something Im watching I either just fast forward or if that is not possible I look away.

 

It's kind of sad how much the media relies on sex scenes to sell their movies.
You look at movies like Lord of the Rings ( the first three) and Star Wars (the originals) and you can see how they have just the right amount of action and romance without having the need to stoop to soft core ( or higher) levels of porn.
There's a classy way to do scenes that imply sex without showing it that can still give the viewer the emotional attachment and drama of the two characters.

 

I stay away from anything sexual, it doesn't matter what it is, it could be a movie scene or a picture because I feel like I'm not giving my brain the break it deserves after all the years of abuse from PMO. If you really want to recover well then I would suggest you stop movies containing sexual scenes.

 

Try commonsensemedia website. They tell you if the movie has explicit scenes.
Also: Not explicit? IMBD must be broken then. Because according to commonsense media the movie is filled with everything you should avoid while doing NoFap

 

Well I'm not proud but, When nudity shows up I bury my face in her neck shoulder area. Its ok because thats what she does when there is blood. But its super super rare. We don't really watch movies that are rated "R".

 

When a sex scenes comes up, I just close my eyes and cover my ears. If it's in the cinema then I cover my ears and walk out.

If it's a dvd then I skip that scene.

Some movies just catch me by surprise. I never watch movies where they have obvious sex scenes.

 

No it’s not

 

Yesterday i saw a guy with 2 dicks... Porn is definitely fake.

 

Nope

 

Personally I've never found them to be an issue when doing NoFap. Firstly, nudity. Nudity outside of a sexual context isn't really arousing to me. Seeing a girl topless or naked doesn't make my mind immediately jump to sex unless that's explicitly the context. As for sex scenes etc, I still don't regard those as a sexual context, because I'm not watching the movie/show for the purpose of getting aroused and getting off, and so I have no interest in being aroused by such scenes.. and so, I'm not.

I don't think trying to avoid all forms of exposure to sex scenes in movies, nudity etc is the best course of action either. I think when you rely on avoiding triggers as your way of abstaining from PMO, then all it takes is the inevitable time when you run into some unexpected triggers, to cause your relapse. If on the other hand, you learn self control and learn not to immediately associate these things with wanting to masturbate, then you'll be able to lead a normal life without being concerned about turning to PMO every time you encounter something mildly risque.

That said, if you find these things triggering, then do make an effort to avoid them during the first 1-3 weeks of your streak, when abstaining is hardest.. but after that point, I suggest rather than trying to avoid triggers, trying to learn to live with them and learn to not always need to be aroused the minute you see a nipple or some ass-cheek.

Of course that's just my take, make of it what you will.

 

Deadpool has a sex scene and so does don jon it may cause a relapse so I would not watch that part

 

Usually I close my eyes.

 

What I do when there's a sex scene in a movie, I hit fast forward, unless I'm at the cinema...

 

I usually check different parental guides. But keep in mind that it's hard to avoid everything in life. Then the only way is to lock yourself in a cabin in the woods without internet or anything. Off course you know yourself best, if you can, avoid obstacles. But sometimes it's good facing some obstacles, working on your self control. Getting thoughts in your brain is only human, it's what you do with those thoughts that decides if it's good or not. If you're willing to take it further, or just see it like it is. A movie scene for instance.

I have punished myself hard for accidentaly watching stuff in movies or so, but in the end it's not sex that's a problem, it's my attitude towards it. I mean "real" sex, not porn-related. That's the struggle to readapt your brain.

So, don't put yourself in bad situations if you know that it may be hard for you to handle it. But also don't underestimate yourself, it's tough always thinking that you'll fall to temptation just for that little scene. In the end that will become normal. Just break the links in your head telling you to PMO, because of what you stumble across. That's the challenge.

Just some thoughts.

 

I skip the scene if I can but if not I would look away or try to find something to do till it's over.