Sexualized society

It is true. Society is sadly brainwashed to this way of thinking and acting. Breaks my heart however, the architects of control constructs this to keep us sexual etc. Making us less aware of the truth...

 

& Welcome to the community

 

This sexual empowering does not only apply to women but also men. One could argue that this is because of fashion/modernization or freedom of choice, however most of us will admit that we are transgressing many important boundaries. One of these important boundary is shamelessness. Shamelessness often brings nothing but evil.

 

Agree with @Love369.. there are architects out there.. enemies, if you will.

Give them no power over your mind nor your life. Be free

 

their is a moment in you're NoFap journey where you will actually care less about woman and you only search for good woman. At that moment you will start to look down to those "sluts".. And thinx man they need to turn their life back in order

 

A little. But I take comfort in knowing that there are others like myself that seek to rise above this.

 

I used to have this mentality but then I came to realize the problem isn't society or other people, the problem is with you. Stop blaming everything and everyone else and instead look at yourself.

A quote that describes this perfectly - "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."

 

It's all up to you. You choose what you let into your brain. You cannot change the whole world. You just change you.

 

This literally made me lol! Due to the fact that I've seriously been considering Chris McCandlessing myself somewhere out in no-mans land. Anyways, the sexualized and pornographied (which apparently isn't a word yet) society we live in makes PMO abstinence damn near impossible. My struggle is that girls dress like 'sluts' yet demand a high level of respect and ask us not to be shallow and superficial in viewing them as objects. That being said, men are the ultimate reason for this sexualized society, which goes far beyond porn, and far into the annals of time.

Sometimes I just laugh at some of the outfits I see, especially in the 'fitness' realm of life. Which applies to both dudes and chicks.. We live in a shameless and incredibly self-centred society where the number of followers or likes you receive on social media determines your market value, thus people are commodified through social media. It's all fucked up, yet it's adhered to by the masses.

Seriously struggling to see how I will fit into society in the future, I am already struggling in this regard. Cell phones are fucked, robotics/AI are fucked, consume consume consume... The damage we have done to our planet cannot be reversed, therefore, what the fuck is the point of living in a society that is fatally flawed?

 

Nothing new being said here, exactly. Yes, yes, yes. All of you.

I do kinda have to trance to my own train of thought in the grocery store, even.. winter is easier, at least then it's just the magazines at checkout and not every other lady dressed in a potentially triggering fashion.

Media. Forget the whole of social media. Except once a month. When shows are on TV, I stare cross-eyed into space at the top of the cabinet and ignore the salaciousness. Keep in mind, I don't watch R or MA stuff.. even then it's crazy how much time is depicted in bedrooms or bathrooms or whatever. And.. they want me to give my teenagers a phone?! What to do, what to do. Yes, I've tried it. Then comes the reports that the blankety blank kid found another way to do sketchy stuff. Which hurts the soul. How can a dad watch a son (or daughter!) fall into this trap he so hates?

Yeah, but society tells me it's all my fault. Ok. I accept the burden. What else is there to do.

But them eyes? They be OFF a whole lot of the time in public. Or online. Or at movies. And, every time they re-engage, I basically regret it and see more than I bargained for. Ay, pues. Time in nature? Church? Wife time? Steel wool on the brain.

 

I feel this society can really demotivate you since what your goals is, is different from the norm of this society. Its like everyone is brainwashed into thinking that all this sexualizing is ok, seeing it everywhere. of course i like beautiful women, but i don't want to see it everywhere to the point where their beauty gets normalized and gets shoved down my throat. (not sure how to say this since my thoughts are all over the place). and this sexualization affects both sexes. so we all need to fix it.

 

Very well put. It is really everywhere you look. It is actually the advertising aspect that is playing a huge role in this...

 

Hmm... Well I'd say if you change You, then you do change the world a bit. So how much you change You - You change the world

 

I hear you. I can imagine it’s hard for a guy...

 

Definitely sick of it. Social media especially Instagram and Facebook. All we can do to survive though this society is not giving attention to it.

 

Sometimes I think this way but other times I ask myself "Are you in control of yourself?" or "Do you fully appreciate that you recognize a pattern which only leads to a downfall?" and other times I seem to gnaw on my own teeth however perhaps the end all answer is to, within each moment look within yourself, breathe deeply and try to concentrate on the beauty you think others do not.

 

Boom, you got it

 

It's a bit of a minefield out there however, we cannot expect others to change in line with our own weaknesses. Women have just as much right to express their sexuality as men, although i will agree that in some situations it is a bit over the top. We can't always control what we are exposed to, sometimes it's just there right infront of you but, we always have the power to make a choice and take back control, it might just mean avoiding certain bars, not using facebook, or simply looking away and talking to someone else. Some people will follow fashion trends in order to just 'fit in' unaware of the context of where it originated from. A lot of women for example, might not understand why their boyfriend wants them to er 'shave down there', but we all know that's because he wants her to mirror the image of the porn performers he has seen because, that becomes his measuring stick.

The other issue which is more concerning these days is the sexualisation of childhood, children often want to mimmick their parents behaviour or follow other peer groups trends whilst not realising how the attire has sexual undertones for example, showing cleavage, tight clothes, make up etc it's something that erodes the barrier of minors being 'off limits' some will say well if you have a problem with that then it's your issue not others but I disagree, i think in some situations certain clothing or attire can create unwanted or un intended attention and send out confusing messages. It is though, never the persons fault who is wearing whatever despite what message they may be unintentionally sending out as everyone is responsible for their own actions. I see it as an indicator of the way society treats the sanctity of our own bodies, our image and our boundaries because we do live in a highly outwardly sexualised and pornified culture nowadays.

 

Yes you are right but blaming others is not a right thing to do cause people where the clothes whatever they want to wear and do stuff whatever they want to do you cant stop that if we see some one very attractive we tend to look them for a moment thats how brain works but what you need to do is do not see anyone with sexual view point just see the women with leggings with normal view just as you would see her wearing some lose pants you should not practise it should come naturally when you are aware and have no bad intensions and stop those fantasies if u see a sexual vine on insta just ignore it then you will become the person who you wanted to become good luck.