How I went from "forever alone" to having an amazing romantic experience in Europe

I will watch that video to this day! Doesn't it have a wonderful message?!

 

It was for real! HOWEVER we aren't ever going to be a thing. She has no way of coming to the US anytime soon. It really was a 12-hour deal, but she has taught me lots of life lessons, and has made me feel good about myself. I realized that I am in fact a gentleman,

I know it seemed like a lot to post about with all my relapses, but there IS a pattern. Following each relapse, the first two weeks (especially days 1-5) were always the hardest, and for some weird reason, urges are STRONG in the Day 40 range for me. In fact the Day 40 range has been cursed for me. But do NOT let any relapse ever bring you down, thought I have let it too many times. Eventually it will pass, and you will be able to get up and continue advancing on your goals.

Enjoy those benefits! There are a whole lot more worth going after!

 

I hear that bro! The right people will appreciate you for the TRUE PERFECT GENTLEMAN you already are. Don't act like something you aren't. I knew a guy who would say really nasty things to girls, and it seemed to work. He even thought he could lecture me on how behave. Eventually some girls who were in the convo told me "Please don't ever change". If stupid pickup lines aren't your thing, so be it! For me my favorite pickup line was "Excuse me, would you mind taking my picture..... want me to return the favor...?" then introduce myself and see where it leads. I didn't expect anything to come from this, but a little talking didn't hurt, and in fact I got more than I expected!

It's always nice to have someone in your life bro. I'm still single, but that girl I met on my travels has taught me so much and really opened my heart!

Rooting for you and everyone else here!

 

I don't expect anyone to understand the following right away, but I promise one day it will all make sense; that I can tell you. I too thought so negatively about myself for the longest time. I let rejection cut me to the core. I became afraid of rejection. I thought I wasn't good enough for someone, and it eventually came to bite me back in the ass when I watched her status change to "in a relationship". Not that there would be something for sure if I actually tried... but I have ended up asking myself "what if..." more times than I could count. But that doesn't mean you have to continuing living that way.

My tactics:
1) Start with dropping all negativity. If you think you're not good enough to someone, you are already positioning yourself to fail. Think of it as "being afraid to succeed".
2) Don't be afraid of rejection. I know this is a hard one, but the more you go out there and attempt to start conversations, you will be amazed how good you can be. I know you probably have heard this for a long time (and I sure have, took me forever to understand...) but the worse possible outcome is rejection, which is EXACTLY the same as not starting that conversation. Sure you might think chances are slim, but that just mean there STILL is a chance. If you don't start that conversation, then ZERO chance.
3) Think about all the things that make you unique, and go with that. Be yourself. There was a time a guy thought he could educate me on how to be successful with women. He was kind of a DB who would say nasty things to girls. It just wasn't me... but if you just be yourself, it is so much easier. See my story? I didn't have to start out with a nasty dirty stupid pickup line. Btw, when I talk about improving yourself and unlocking your full potential, that doesn't mean act like someone else. You need to find what works best for you, and when you do, you will knock it out of the park!

 

I LOVE IT!!!!!!!! That makes me smile that my story inspired you and now look at you getting out of your comfort zone!

See? Going somewhere on your own is NOT a bad thing. You never know what can happen or who you will meet. Think about the "Seconds" video. Endless of possibilities waiting to line up, and eventually a GREAT one will be written. As I traveled on my own and I saw the lady in Europe, I had no idea how close were were going to get 12 hours later. I went through years of getting played, rejected, or not doing my part in saying hello. I did work on starting conversations in the months leading up to the EuroTrip btw. I once approached a lady at the gym and we worked out together. We did talk about "wanna do this again?" Similarly, "Give me your number..." I knew instantly what that meant... again, don't feel bad if nothing else comes out of it! You had a great experience, and you are on to make many more in the future!

You also have a great attitude of focusing on the positive side. Just take what you can get.

Keep doing what you're doing. Say "hello", see where it leads, and you never know! I hope to hear more great stories from you bud!