Erect with Porn- but not with my Woman

Dont ever do it out of boredom. If ever. You need a replacement activity. Pick up a hobby or something. Maybe an instrument, or a quick work out.

You need to get your mind off of sex, especially the more extreme kinds, in order to be adequately stimulted again to acheive an adequate erection. What ever triggers you have, that causes you to get into that mindset, you need to get rid of. And don't allow yourself any wiggle room, or it will turn into a slippery slope. No 30 second porn-browsing just to check the thumbnails of new uploads. No passive pseudo-masturbation. No THINKING about porn scenes or associated acts.

I believe the first couple of weeks are the most difficult. I've only gone two week, but I can already feel it's getting a lot easier. I don't think about porn or jerking off as much anymore. That's after 15 years of jerking it to porn regularly. It only took me about a week to regain my morning boners. Now Im on a NoFap journey, until I get back spontaneus erections and Im able to have a normal sex life again. Luckily for you, you started porn late in life, so your brain wireing is not messed up from the get-go. So you'll probably have a more speedy recovery than if you had started your 20 years of porn-fapping in your teens.

I'm sure some of your ED is porn induced, but honestly at your age you may be looking at some physiological ED on top of that. Are you using any ED aids? Like Sildenafil, tadalafil, vadenafil, alprostadil, citrulline, arginine, penis ring?

 

The thing that has helped me the most is to read as much as I can about porn addiction, PIED, PMO, Re-Booting, Flatlining, Re-Wireing, etc.

Start with yourbrainonporn.com and rebootnation.org.

The more you know, the better armed you'll be for your battle.

Good luck to you!!

 

These are all good suggestion. Also, you can considerate searching forma an accountability partner, someone to directly contact to support you.
Personally, when I have urges I think to what I want, and to the feelings I had when something down there doesn't work properly, how miserable I feel. That keeps me strong in my commitment.

 

To have or not to have sex during reboot is a controversial topic. Read here and there and take a decision for yourself, or even better with your gf! Anyway, if you want to become more sensitive down there you have to stop the death grip, be it from you or your gf. You are not able to climax without it? Than don't climax.

 

your age has little to do is you are in shape and have healthy eating habits. I am in the same age group and if I dont PMO I can have all the erections I want and last. Which make my addiction even more incredible. There is something akin to self destruction in this addiction, I mean we are willing to be limp with our SO just so we can continue to feed porn. How sick is that??

 

I'm personally doing 'hardmode' which is a strict NO P, NO M, NO O. Period

I'm not going to look at porn again for the rest of my life, and I'm not going to O until I can get aroused with my wife, then O inside her.

If you both need to handle your dick violently, it sounds like you need a good solid reboot.

I'm absolutely no expert, believe me, but I've read many success stories where they went hardmode for at least 90 days. (Up to 6 months.)

Look around on the web for PIED, porn addiction, PMO, Re-boot, etc. Read as much as you can, then make up your own mind as to how you want to proceed.

Best of luck to you whatever you decide!

 

Watch as many Nofap videos as you can. Plus read up on the neurological effects of porn addiction. It will give you perspective.