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Ready to Give up

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SoulEvolution, Dec 10, 2017.

  1. Dec 10, 2017 #1
    SoulEvolution

    SoulEvolution Fapstronaut

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    I have lost all faith, after 1 year of trying to quit PMO; I have failed. My longest has been 18 days.
    I feel like crap. Can I really do this ? It's seems impossible. Every bloody time this screwed up devil comes up with a way to enchain me. I'm done.
    I have failed to keep my words with God and my men. It hurts and it's so lonely.
    I wanted a better life and my parents deserved a better son. I'm 22, my 10 year old self would be proud but equally ashamed.
    I had so much potential, so mush to give, so much to live but this thing as stopped me from all of it. Only if I could overcome this I would the so good, so social, so influential, so learned, so wise and so happy. Why can't I do this ? Even thought I know I'll be the best me when I overcome this.
    Even when I know what I should be doing I don't do it. I dread the effort and fear the result. I, immediately, find any distraction to avoid doing THE MOST IMPORTANT WORK I should be doing. For I know, if I do it and do so long and hard; I'll be the best at it. I mean, how cowardly am I ?
    I'll give this one LAST try, I swear, by my life, my HARDEST try. And if I overcome this You'll hear about me eventually and if I don't, I'll never show my face here again. I promise to make the days count and not count the days. I promise to use my best judgement at all times. I promise to keep in mind these words I say to you. I promise to my men, This is day I declare Enough is Enough. I'll put and end to this once and for ALL.
    Screw Dec 31, This is my NEW YEAR to a NEW LIFE.
    Happy new you to all those celebrating.
     
    SoulEvolution, Dec 10, 2017
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  2. Dec 10, 2017 #2
    7thSon

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    Hey Buddy. Stay Strong. I have also failed umpteenth times and am trying to reprogram myself. I believe it's possible. Please don't lose faith in yourself.
     
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  3. Dec 10, 2017 #3
    FromZeroToNinety

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    The human brain works in strange and mysterious ways. When we relapse, we do so because the brain steers our behavior in a direction that it thinks will increase our chances of survival. It does this because over the years it automatically instructed us to watch porn every time it tried to alleviate the painful effects of an uncomfortable situation; a situation we did not face but rather escaped, because we hadn’t learned to deal with and endure uncomfortable situations in life.

    We PMO addicts have something in common: the one pleasurable feeling that our brain remembers everytime it tries to eliminate mental pain is PMO. It felt good when we did it a few times in the beginning. But the more we masturbated to porn over the years, the more our brain strengthened neural pathways which would lead us to do the same thing with less effort next time, e.g. we learn to type our favorite fetishes faster, we find the tabs we look for faster and our eyes even catch certain images quicker.

    The solution is to learn to deal with uncomfortable situations like adults by directing our focus to new activities and make a habit out of it. Once we do this on a regular basis, our brain will create less and less urges to PMO when facing uncomfortable thoughts/situations. Instead, it will create a need to do the same activity we directed our focus at when we trained to change our behavior in uncomfortable situations.

    To sum it up, it's all about focus and training and above all, facing resisting discomfort, instead of avoiding it. Change every aspect of your life and you will master NoFap.
     
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  4. Dec 10, 2017 #4
    Zapster21

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    You can do it!
     
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  5. Dec 10, 2017 #5
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    It sounds like their is a little voice in your head saying "Resistance is futile." Ignore it and move on.

    We all have our set backs. If yours comes at 18 days, it doesn't make you a failure. It means you had 17 days of success! Move on. And make your next streak 36 days.

    You will beat this when you no longer allow it to define your success. You're already winning, so stop looking back.

    RR
     
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