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Worrying arguments in my head.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by FromZeroToNinety, Dec 11, 2017.

  1. FromZeroToNinety

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    I have reached 80+ days. Since before I started my NoFap journey I've had imaginary arguments where I verbally fight with people I don't even know or people I don't like much.

    Let me give you an example: the arguments would start with a typical scene where I need something from some stranger, for example, in a public office. I ask something or give paperwork that was required of me. Then the stranger would look at the paper and start criticizing me. He would list everything that I did wrong and how I can't do this or that. Then I would imagine my reply(and this is the REALLY SATISFYING PART): I would talk to him in such a way that he feels like shit and would belittle his life in front of his colleagues. I start putting him right and question his whole life. How stupid his worldview is and how he will suffer as a result of his overblown confidence.
    This person would typically fit some kind of stereotype: an overconfident person who always talks about himself and is the center of a group, a banker or insurance agent who tricks gullible people or just some idiot who doesn't share what he has plenty of.

    I don't know if this happens because PMO changed the structure of my brain since I was 13 or if it is some kind of subconscious conflict I haven't dealt with and it really scares me because I think this is the reason that I don't have any interest in talking to strangers and meeting new people. Whenever I made new acquaintances, it was because the situation demanded it (introductions from friends, new colleagues, etc.)

    Please someone help me understand this, I have never had any mental issues and my friends would never imagine me to be like this. They simply know me as someone how doesn't talk much.
     
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  3. FromZeroToNinety

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    What I mean is that I do something alone like driving or showering and, out of nowhere, these hateful thoughts suddenly appear in my head where I imagine other people criticizing me and how I would react in a hateful or even physically violent manner. The whole argument is really vivid in my head like a scene I remember from some movie. I don't know how to reduce this or what this even means. Would meditation help?
     
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  4. KaiserWilhelm II

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    My friend I don't know if you are religious or not, but as Muslims we believe that if such hateful thoughts are reoccurring again and again without your control you should follow the path of sufism and do ruqyah by visiting an imam.
     
  5. KaiserWilhelm II

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    Or just go to a psychologist
     
  7. KaiserWilhelm II

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    Man is only limited by weaknesses of attention and poverty of imagination. Sufism or meditation or joga can help you alot for sure
     
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  8. FromZeroToNinety

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    Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it. Is there something I can do to handle these thoughts once they appear?
     
  9. KaiserWilhelm II

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    Yeas, even though I don't you if you are religious or not, just pray to a higher self and join a martial arts centre, where you can learn Chi-Gong meditation and Aswell visit "Sufi" who will give you great spiritual help, because even I felt like you are feeling now and then went to a sufi and asked him about it and after some time he was able to heal me with the spiritual power. You can many of these things.
     
  10. KaiserWilhelm II

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    Yeah, I need to get sleep, Tomorrow I will tell you an extravagant solution
     
  11. dxx

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    Hey man,

    This is a thing I experience too. Just generally, although come to think of it, it does seem to increase when I'm not messing up on nofap.
    Actually helps me a lot to know that I'm not the only one :)
    I feel that these thoughts result from unconscious/semi-conscious feelings of inferiority and fear of doing something wrong/being judged for it. Addicts of all kinds suffer from these types of feelings. Hence the addiction. As a result, the mind creates a conscious scenario of inflated superiority to counteract these scary feelings. There is nothing wrong with you. It means you're human.
    What helps me is repeating over and over in my head that I am worthy, that I am successful, that I am accepted. Feels a bit psycho but over time it helps rewire the brain. Make sure to use positive phrases such as the ones I listed above. The subconscious mind does not understand the concept of "not", so if you repeat "I am not judged", it may make you more fearful of being judged.
    Hope this helps. Keep it up!
     
  12. KaiserWilhelm II

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    You are great looking and very strong
     
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