I hate seeing attractive single women at church.

Well good. Sorry for assuming. Obviously I don't know you, so there's really no way for me to know whether that was completely a joke or not.

 

Lol maybe. They don't always work for me though :/

 

I am an atheist and I agree with this comment. (runs)

 

Lol I don't think you have to be religious to agree that people who are religious should try to meet other religious people, because they will have more in common.

It always makes me cringe when guys talk about wanting a really lady-like conservative wife-material kind of gal, and then complain about not finding that while looking at bars and clubs.

 

I had the same problem. I would find myself staring at beautiful women during worship, maybe not even lustfully but definitely detracting my attention from God. I found that sitting up front really helped that. Nothing between myself and our preacher but the pulpit really helped me maintain better focus during worship.

 

I used to have the problem until for some reason those I considered attractive left. Try to judge them by their personalities.

 

Agreed, it's a ridiculous life pattern.

Of course, it's just as ridiculous when girls talk about wanting a wise, mature, conservative husband-material kind of guy, and then complain about not finding that while looking at bars and clubs.


For me, I consider church to perhaps be my only dating pool? A church girl is the only kind of girl that I want, so unless she attends church and is a born-again believer, I'm not interested.

 

Yes, of course, that is equally stupid. I haven't seen that happen as much, but that's probably just because I dont have many female friends. I'm sure women do the same. I didn't mean to imply that it was just a men's issue.

I agree! If you are only interested in dating a fellow believer, then it's really hard to date outside of the church, because you dont know what people's beliefs are just by looking at them. Lucky for me, I also went to a Christian University, so I had a large pool there. But ultimately I found my husband at church anyway.

 

Mohammeden mindset huh? You better be right about it. Because If you anyhow connect that to Islam(which is not your "mohammeden"), by assuming that burka's are part of it then you are wrong. You talk about the sharia law like some blind person talking about seeing colors. You better educate yourself on the subject. Women in Islam don't cover for men, understand this!

 

They are overreacting although I would much prefer to read the Bible on my own I would be open to meeting a woman at church because spirituality and faith is something I want in my wife and if she happens to be cute well that's gods creation but her spirit and personality is what I would be drawn too

 

Stop beating yourself up. I’ve had so many sexual fantasies in church it’s ridiculous.

So what if you dress nice with a secret desire to meet your mate at church? Helluva lot better than meeting her at a bar, strip joint or a cam site.

Go forth and congregate with the congregation I say. But I’m a sinner too...

 

The more churchy expression would be "saint in the streets, sinner in the sheets", however, I hate to burst your bubble but Christians are still asked to practice chastity even within marriage. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Having the same sexual spirit which produces things like casual sex and pornography are not in line with the virtue of chastity.

 

Women who wait until marriage are getting really rare. I assume for men is even more rare.

 

There are so many different ways one could interpret that verse. Who's to say what is "pure" and what isn't? Some people think only missionary style is allowed or something. But God certainly doesn't outline that.

 

Kinda shows the need for a teaching authority doesn't it?

Here's a good article.
http://www.boundless.org/advice/2008/how-is-chastity-lived-out-within-marriage

 

My point still stands... there are many different ways to interpret purity or chastity, or whatever you want to call it. Everyone has different lines that they would say cross from pure to impure.