Here's a hypothetical question....

This is quite a conundrum you pose here. The way you're talking about it, it means a lot to you, right? And if you truly love the person you will be with in the future, you'd want to give her your all.. in complete honesty. I know there are some things we must take to the grave with us but I don't think this is one of those things. Would u question this if it were drugs or alcohol? Or is it just the "embarassment" associated with pmo.. I'd ponder upon that. And just imagine she were to find out another way.. she would probably be upset that you didnt confide in her trust.

Then again, if you do tell her and she doesn't accept it, is she really accept you for YOU? And I know that you will not be the same you as you are today but we are the product of your past. Just my thoughts. . Hope I was able to instill some questions within you. Stay strong!

 

If you're talking marriage, you should be honest about your issues, past and present. If you want her to commit her life, she should know what she's getting into. Most likely, she will accept you. If she is demanding someone perfect, that's a problem. And if she just has such an issue with PMO that she can't be with someone who has struggled with it and overcome, then it's probably just not a good marriage.

$.02

 

My opinion, before you decide to commit to a person, you should send out feelers to find out if they can accept you for who you are. If porn addiction is a major struggle for you, it definitely needs to come into the conversation at some point during the dating phase of the relationship. Anything that's been a big deal in your life needs to come out before you put a ring on it, right? Some partners will be more understanding than others. You definitely want one who will be emotionally supportive! The only way to find out is to be honest.

 

Hi,
I would't be so extreme about "if she's the one she must accept".

You can tell her that you overconsumed porn and decided to stop. This is true. But words are powerful and "addiction" especially. Would you marry an ex-alcoholic knowing that she is invited to a party everynight ?*Would she marry an ex-pornholic knowing that there is internet everywhere?
Don't ask too much to love. Don't sacrifice your life for it. Ask to the other one what she can give.
Moreover you can claim the sentence (overconsumption and stop) to your friends if the topics of porn comes around, so there won't be a stressful "confession time" to live, she will be aware.

 

I was going to write this. If you love her I guess you have to tell the truth but hey, "I overconsumed porn and decided to stop" is the truth.