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21st century Part I

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Sonnylan99, Dec 24, 2017.

  1. Sonnylan99

    Sonnylan99 Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys.Im a member since quite some time and i love this community and i want to thank all of you helping me go through this.I basically experimented with myself and yes, it did change my life.
    See what happens with the brain is that it changes its pleasure source from pornography to the real world, and it doesnt just happen like that, i think you have to overcome some type of 'levels' to achieve real life as a pleasure source.
    First you abstain from PMO.It no longer gives you pleasure.Then you abstain from, lets say video games or internet addiction (youtube,different websites, etc.).Then you abstain from TV (you watch tv from time to time but not because it excites you or is a high source of pleasure).Then you abstain from fast food and junk food, Then you abstain from 'potato couch syndrome' or 'living inside four walls' addiction, meaning spending most if not all of your day inside home or closed environments, AND SO ON.
    After some time, you start experiencing the pleasures of real life which include friendship, relationships, adventure, creation, goal achievement.Then, after this continues on for some time something strange starts happening .. Suddenly from all this life of full happy living, sudden thoughts come to your mind, certain events happen which catch you unprepared. We think that abstaining from pmo is the only thing needed to approach 'reality'. After some time all the girls and your social circle and everything start getting their effect a little bit down. And, as i mentioned earlier certain events will happen with the passing of time and what i mean by that is reality will hunt you down, namely you have to confront your fears, and by that i dont mean talking to some slut or how to be the "alpha" in the room. No, you get to confront real deep down instilled fears from childhood,fears you ignored.You abstain from nofap but what do you do? Ok, you get girlfriends and improve your social life and go out more, but youre still on the same job, maybe not maybe you changed 3 or 4 or 10 jobs but what are you doing with your life. Just squandering around like a lost. Whats something crazy that you would like to do that even if all your social circle and family would make you a laughstock because of it but you'd still do it? Open a business? Maybe move out on your own? Maybe talk back to your boss or movig out in a whole other country.It could be taking over a whole tv company and becoming the ceo or being involved in some cause or some group where you can execute strategies into real life and actually have an effect out there. I mean, see compare it to the 80s and 90s for example.All this excitement all this fire in the youth, you had rock bands that sung flr freedom and breathing in every little small breath from life. There was no individual, there was the community. Today its all about the individual all about me me me me and me. Were all slaves we go to the same jobs and we all go black friday shopping and we all wanna buy this new car to make our neighbour jelaous. You have no idea how much ideas and experiences can be lived when you embrace everyone as someoe special, as something unique that nobody else has.You dont think anymore, "how can i go into the room and dominate the whole thing how can i be the center of attention etc etc." That just shows how much of a complex you have.How you need everyone to support you and be on your side and give you attention. A true , what you call an "alpha" doesnt give two shits about how to impress others or how to get attention. He just doesnt care. He doesnt care if he loses it all, if all is against him.He welcomes life as what it is.But you dont get to see these people in your city or collar jobs.They live in the 'hood' in america right now, in the 'favelas' or somewhere in russia or third world countries.They existed much more in the past but you dont know anything about this. Because you believe what you see in the movies, because you accept whatever the movies give you, like 'this is what i have to be to be a man' , this is the ideal.
     
  2. Sonnylan99

    Sonnylan99 Fapstronaut

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    I dont know if youre getting what im trying to tell you. Back then, people had no porn and i dont mean in the BC era, i mean concretely 20th century. People didnt care about being alpha male or dominating a room. They were realistic. Their goal was to build a home, make an effect on society. People made revolutions back then against fierce governments, can you imagine that? Can you even imagine today the government just being thrown down. I dont think so. Revolution in Cuba by Che Guevara, Adolf Hitler, Benitto Mussolini, or Malcolm X, Mahatma Ghandi. Ghandi was beaten routinely on protests by police till he became leader of India. What I mean by all of this if you havent got it by now, you havr to embrace pain you have to embrace life with all its good and bad. We as men in the 21st century we have no purpose in life. Tell me whats your purpose in life? Get money, become famous on instagram or tv, boss around, make people jelaous, think how to get a good comeback at your coworker at your shitty job? All im saying is you have to wake up and shut up all distractions from the outside tv,facebook propaganda,instagram propaganda all the other hollywood induced propaganda bullshit and look at real life. Reading different books from authors of different nationalities and of earlier times will help or traveling to other ends of the world to whole other cultures, go work there live for a while then change place.Most of us have been living in a shell up until now. Believe me if youve achieved the nofap challenge and got the girlfriends and relationships and all of that.Youve only experienced 5% of what other pleasures life provides.Back in the day it was easy for people to live life to the fullest because that was the lifestyle back then. Going to a world war, forming secret intelligence groups,going on violent demonstrations, taking part in a revolution, experiencing a brush with death.Surviving.
    Dont take it personal if you got offended by some things in this post its just that you have to wake up and experience real life. A group is not something to be dominated or to have someone with the most power or control. A group is where everyone is unique, powerful, cool, intelligent, smart, funny in their own way, and eachs power is that in the bonding of the group with each other.Where everyone is equal. Once you understand this then unending pleasures and adventures will await you. You'll see all these different viewpoints of life all these different methods of thinking. A healthy group with healthy individuals can transform you completely. Youll find out that google is nothing compared to the information you can get from real life humans. You have to see each person as a world in itself with their own strengths, weaknesses, events, successes, failures,etc. Every single person that you meet in your life, knows something, you don't. When you get in a group you are 10x more effective and more worth as if opposed being on your own. You don't hear about this on tv or facebook or instagtram twitter or the internet. Because they want you to stay in your shell, stay dependent. You have no idea today how much possibilities there are with all these technological advancements how much ideas can be put to practice. Theres a ton of new technology thats never talked about in the news or facebook, about practically anything you can imagine. Anything. Unfortunately this group mentality isnt available in the us its more available in europe and other continents mostly in socialist countries like china, or russia. If any russian is reading this they know what im talking about. Hell you could make a secret university club where you discuss all different types of topics, contribute each other to self improvement or have a common goal as a group. You can apply this to all areas of life no matter your age. You'll see that each will complete the others missing half.
    If theres something thay you avoided or feared since you were a child lets say changing environments, losing someone, letting go, losing control, do just that. You could start off small.
     
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    Sonnylan99 Fapstronaut

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    You have no idea today how much possibilities there are with all these technological advancements how much ideas can be put to practice. Theres a ton of new technology thats never talked about in the news or facebook, about practically anything you can imagine. Anything. Unfortunately this group mentality isnt available in the us its more available in europe and other continents mostly in socialist countries like china, or russia. If any russian is reading this they know what im talking about. Hell you could make a secret university club where you discuss all different types of topics, contribute each other to self improvement or have a common goal as a group. You can apply this to all areas of life no matter your age. You'll see that each will complete the others missing half.
    If theres something thay you avoided or feared since you were a child lets say changing environments, losing someone, letting go, losing control, do just that. You could start off small.
    You could start off small. Maybe go to a boxing or kickboxing gym nearby. It will refresh your brain. Feeling the heavy kick, your knees weakening but then you just dony give a fuck , you dont care if you get hurt, if others laugh at you, if you lose your eye , or if you break bone you just let go and go all in. Just think of this, theres so many situations you havent faced, so many places you haven't been, so many things you haven't felt. There are so many mysteries in the world so many things that havent been done, so many opportunities now more than ever in the history of mankind, but we have now more distractions than ever in the history of mankind.If you can get past these distractions then you've won at life. Then everything will start to follow a certain route in your life , events will happen , it will be then like dominoes falling on each other.
    What is something you've always wanted to do? Or something crazy that once crossed your mind like a lightbeam but you thought not possible because of all the risks and all the people it would make mad.
    Our life is going away by the second.

    Experiment. Travel. Give things up. See past the distractions that the modern world has put in front of you.Start from today.

    For Nofap is only the opening door and only the beginnig to a whole new world.

    Good Luck.
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