Trigger Warning - Tips to reduce distraction from cleveages

Ik its hard but try not to look. Think of it as this. What if they were to catch you in the act. What would they think of you?

 

Dude, seriously?! This is the most cucked response I ever read in my life! You seriously think these women are showing off their cleavage to you because they want you to "respect" them?! GET REAL! smh

 

"My eyes are up here."

This thing takes a lifetime of practice. Just start rewiring it now. Be open and honest and it will come as a natural outgrowth of our respect for people as people.

 

Perhaps, you could have an automatic and accessible habit to fall back to when you catch yourself tempted to look at the cleavage. Like looking up in the ceiling for a brief moment and taking in a breath...or if you're in the middle of a conversation, notice their eye color and then look away from their face either left or right (neither up nor down)..... in short, take a breath

Good luck and thank you for what you do! The world needs more great teachers.

 

Just reduce your social media spend more time on nofap

 

It's only fair that you want to shut down a behavior that you find conflicting with your commitment goals. It's distracting, tempting, and it can trigger you down a thought process that you are very much trying to avoid. This mental avoidance causes tension in your thought process; and tension is stressful.
Also consider this; accepting the scenario for what it is. As a straight man you are attracted woman's breasts. There's nothing wrong or shameful about this. You can appreciate a woman's physique and still continue to be respectful towards them so long as you can logically and emotionally understand not to define that individual by their cleavage. It sounds like you already understand this so respect is not an issue here.

From what I understand it's the trigger and tension that you want to overcome. Check out the TedTalks called "Judson Brewer A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit". It brings an interesting perspective into play. It may seem unconventional at first, however it focuses on you essentially getting over this triggered/tension conflict you have when faced with the scenario. Spoiler Alert [Stare At the Boob, but do it mindfully to reflect on yourself and your own thought process in order to break the habit].

I hope this can be useful to you.
Best of luck

 

I feel for you man. It must be hard as hell to work at a college and be successful with nofap!

 

No joke.

How's it been going, @seaguy44... any luck applying one particular strategy or another?

 

Focus on their face, look them in the eye with good intentions or lower your gaze. That works for me.

 

I think it should be both. Respect should be part of it. As for sure girls don’t want to be stared at their boobs. I found it ok to look at the cleavage and the girls are fine as long as it’s a look a glance and not a sicko steaming.

 

Peter i agree. I do not mind a guy looking at my boobs. That’s one reason why I wear sexy or cleavage. But it needs to be tasteful appreciative. Half don’t have this and only the dirty lust look...some stare. That’s not so great.

 

But why would you pick up discussion with me on a hot topic as a seemingly sexy young girl??

 

Just look them in eyes and be present and you can glance away from there face subtlety not too long but you should be focused on their face and body language to see how the interaction is going because everything else pretty much a distraction lol