desperate fap addict pursuing long term happiness...

Hey @healthyKan ,

Welcome. Your English is very good. No problems understanding you at all.

You are in the right place. My experience here is that I needed to:

1. Learn the NoFap program.

2. Get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:



It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

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@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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@Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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@BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/
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@LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/
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@Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

L

 

One day at a time. (ODAT)

When I first heard those words I didn't trust them. Really, thought they were a terrible idea and would never work for me.

Why?

Because for years, decades really, I'd lied to myself in my addiction and told myself I was only going to do my addictive behavior today - that I would stop tomorrow.

So, one day at a time was how I had stayed in my addiction. By saying just today, I'll stop tomorrow.

But, after some time, I started to realize that recovery's ODAT meant I wasn't going to do my addictive behavior today, while my lie of ODAT was that I wouldn't do my addiction tomorrow.

So, now I know this is my program of recovery, I didn't pmo today and I don't plan on pmo tomorrow.

But, it's about more than not pmo. It works if I work it. So, I so the work. I read NoFap literature even if I've read it before and I get involved with the community (which takes work).

Looking forward to seeing you about in the forums and on the profiles,

- L

 

Welcome to the community. You will find lots of other supportive guys here.

 

That amount of beating off you're doing will induce brain fog and keep you imprisoned there so long as you keep up all that masturbation. It will seriously feel like depression as well as anxiety, and will destroy your emotions, your enthusiasm for life, and even make fairly simple cognitive tasks feel very difficult.

Read up on the effects it has on your brain on yourbrainonporn.com.

I never got addicted to porn, but i was addicted to fapping pretty bad around 2 years ago. Since that time, my life has changed drastically since doing a bunch of fairly long streaks.

I no longer suffer from brain fog, which originally i just thought was severe depression, but was actually brought on by beating off every morning and sometimes multiple times a day. I had no zest for life. Even being a regular runner didn't help me.

It was only til I started doing the nofap lifestyle that helped me. Without the brain fog, I can think more deeply now. I feel enthusiastic about life again like when i was a kid before beating off to Penthouse magazines. I am healthier, and my junk got bigger since I'm not beating my meat so much anymore.

Also i decided porn is a cuck beta activity that poses no benefits anymore. I'd rather pursue real live women, not pixels on a screen.

 

Welcome, stopping PMO will be the best decision you can ever make. I promise it will make your life better. Here is a link to my journal with the plan I used to overcome porn and other addictions. I believe that it is a good starting point and my plan will help you to develope your own plan.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/no-cross-dressing-re-boot-journal.87827/

Good Luck!

 

Welcome. There is a lot to learn, and you may find it hard to meditate when you are tempted. Try reading about meditation instead, or otherwise engaged in mental activity that would support peace of mind.

It is not going to be a simple plan where you just do X, Y and Z and it goes away. The best way anyone works such a plan related to addiction would be to examine your life and what you're doing and see how you can adapt, continually. The traditional approach of "this is the plan, just follow it" does NOT work in the modern world with technology and so much dynamic change, which is why it is ESSENTIAL that you connect socially via a platform like this - not to just socialize or even get support but be part of the on-going process. Most parents and elders that thinks in terms of this "old school" approach of staying with one fixed plan will probably not understand your challenge and be hardly able to offer help since their advice is always the same. I want to assure you that you can overcome this though if you really become involved and engaged, everyday learning something new.