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Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction(PIED) & Premature Ejaculation(PE) and it's cure

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Selfdiscovery, Dec 16, 2017.

  1. Hello everyone...
    I'm 32,M and single.I am masturbating without porn since past 15-16 years on an average 4-5 times in a month.i discovered Porn and started FPMOing since last 6-7 years.i used to PMO for 1-2 off days continuously in these 6-7 years 2-3 times in a month.After joining Nofap ,I accepted that I'm addicted to all this.i tried to quit and relapsed after 170,20,37,167 and like that to PMO.
    I'm in a long distance relationship since past 1 year.i meet with my gf for 1-2 days say in every 1.5 months.we have decided that we would not have sex till we get married.We are about to get married next year.In these 1-2 days we plan so many things visiting temple,beach,shopping,dinners,cooking,shopping and spending quality time with each other.we cuddle,kiss, caresses,touch each other.Most of times I get aroused so much and ejaculate.recently she was caressing me there and I ejaculated quickly.after that I feel exhausted and brain-fogged.i don't feel that I'm living in present moments.i try to please her,I try to connect with myself and with her,I try to touch her,smell and feel her.but I'm not much successful.at times I get these but at times I don't.she is very loving,supporting and caring.she says physically I'm good looking than her but I'm not bothered much about that.i just want to be with her and make her feel good.bt why almost evertime i ejaculate prematurely and feel lost and exhausted?
    Most of times I just sit idle and do nothing.is losing sperm this way is causing all or its my past habit and masturbating fast to come early has given all this premature ejaculation and disconnection with myself?
    Is anyone felt this ?please share and what needs to be done for that...
    I'll wait for your comments...
    Thanks...
    Good luck to everyone...
     
  2. Is there anybody who went through all this?
    I think it's posted in wrong group,is it?
     
  3. I think there is much talk about PIED than PE on NoFap!May be very few are affected by premature ejaculation than PIED.Dont know exactly but I have to resolve this and live a normal life.
    Hope I'll.
     
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  4. The good news is that sex is a little harder and requires more work than just humping or caressing. That alone might help you to last longer. You'll just have to practice and communicate with her.

    Also, don't confuse intimacy with genital pleasure. There is so much more to marriage.
     
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  5. I hope same as well.Getting connected with my gf day by day will help me feel and rewire my brain better.We are in long distance relationship ,but I think we can do this.
    Thanks Man!
     
  6. There is an informative and practical approach FANOS, I found it in one of threads of @ILoathePwife .Just tagging her so that one can be benefitted by this.i myself going to try this,even though I'm in long distance relationship!I hope that this will certainly help me!
     
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  7. ILoathePwife

    ILoathePwife Fapstronaut

    Yeah, FANOS is a great tool! I'll leave the link in case anyone reading this hasn't read about it yet.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/have-you-heard-of-fanos.67103/

    Yes, it can definately work long distance. My husband created a Facebook group for just is two, we type it in there when he works overnights. You can also send it by message or text or just call.

    Does this mean you've told her about your struggles with PMO? I hope so. My husband thought he'd given it up when he met me. He relapsed shortly after we got married and I spent 5 years knowing something was wrong but not what. Please tell her if you haven't.
     
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  8. Thankyou @ILoathePwife .I'm looking forward to practice it whenever I met with my going to be wife.We met at every 40-45 days for 2-3 days.Thats the time I want to spend with her and make her feel happy.i too want to live in realism.

    I have told her so many times that I used to watch P and it creates a lot of problems and I'm also effected by this badly.First time she didn't even noticed but I insisted her many times and she accepts that it's a bad thing and has many side effects but she never understood it may be.Actually she's a nice human being and is naive.She never ever even imagined to watch P or do anything if such ,so she can't think about it at all.
    I don't want to relapse.Actually I don't want FPMO anymore ,I have understood it that I'm severely affected by it and after she came in my life ,I'm contended!its like I'm fulfilled.ill not give up and I'll move myself away from it.i know its not easy but I think I'll do it.
    Wish me strength ,rest I'll do.
    I'll update my progress.i thank you whole heartedly!
     
  9. FatPat90

    FatPat90 Fapstronaut

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    I think you've already received some good advice but I was just going to add that you wrote that you have trouble being in the present moment. That stood out to be because I to have trouble connecting to the present moment at times. I wanted to share that I've made alot of progress from reading a book called the power of now. It's about 10 dollars and I'd say for the money it's worth it. It has some good advice about getting out of your own head and living. Anyways just my two cents.
     
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  10. Thankyou @FatPat90 for reading and replying.I have added this book in my wish list and I'll read it certainly.
    I just want to ask you,by reading book we are able to resolve and proceed then is it psychological through which we are going,as everyone says it changes brain chemistry and in some cases effects one physically as well.So what exactly is your case and by doing what you are getting results.if you can share it'll better to understand certain things in recovery.
    Stay committed and best wishes!
     
  11. I think these are just few words but has a deep meaning.True sex is not just PIV or limited to genitals.Its being involved with each one ,respecting each other and caring.Modern world has really diverted the real concept of love into sex.
    Yup that's also true.Marriage is a lot deeper reality than just sex.And amazing thing is most girls don't bother much how long we do sex with them or had how long genitals.but still we destroy a lot of our resources into all this.
     
  12. Hello all...
    It's a battle that I'm fighting within me every moment and I want to be fully true to myself.God give strength to me to be able to true to myself and carry on on this journey.

    I'm posting in this thread just so that if someone is facing PIED or Premature Ejaculation then they may reply or get something benificial.

    Today night when I was sleeping .My wife kissed me and she starting cuddling with me.All I can remember is I was in sleep and I too started reciprocating.I felt that I had strong erection while cuddling but suddenly I ejaculated.And then I had to stop and go for a sleep again.

    It was so heart breaking that I can't express.I feel like crying but I was unable to.I thought what my wife would have thought.She don't deserve all this.its all very disturbing.still she supports me like anything and being lovely to me.

    And it's happening most of times.When we have sex I ejaculate in 2-3 time penetration and then I have to stop.Is it called PIED or premature ejaculation? If it's happening due to PIED then I need more time and total clean from all kinds of self loathing.

    It's all continuing when I'm daily doing yoga and breathing exercise.Well I can say I'm not regular but since past week I have done it on regular basis.I'll continue to do it.

    Hope God some days gets kind enough after seeing my efforts and I can be cured and out of all these miseries.

    All I can do is to start my day ,do yoga and exercise and be kind to my wife and everything in a hope that one day I'll be allright and things will be normal.

    Nothing more to share.I feel broken but I'll continue to improve myself...
     
  13. I'm certain that my premature ejaculation is due to PMO & it's called PIED.And I'm trying to heal it.
     
  14. PIED is Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. It is not the same as premature ejaculation (PE). PIED is when you can't get or maintain an erection due to PMO, and from what you've said, it sounds like you have PE, not PiED.

    Regardless of which one affects you or what it's called, have you completely stopped PMO? That is the first step in fixing this issue, and it takes time and consistency. Even if you've cut out P but still MO with or without fantasizing, or you still watch P without MO, it can hinder recovery.

    It sounds like your wife is very supportive. Talk to her about how you're feeling. There are ways to satisfy her first so that, if intercourse doesn't last long, she won't be left hanging.
     
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  15. dandausa

    dandausa Fapstronaut

    This video might be helpful to you. He talks about PE, DE, and PIED. I found it helpful.

     
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  16. Yes I have completely stopped porn in all kinds and stopped masturbation a way back.
    I realised that unconsciously here and there I used to watch photos and give a notice in normal videos and tv.But I realised in lately and now since past 20-22 days I'm totally free form all this.Not even indulged with wife too so far.
    Kind of in flatline.

    Thanks for your post and encouragement.
     
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  17. Thanks for posting.Thats what i belive that my PE is due to prolonged masturbation and then usage of porn here and there.

    I have heard each and every word they are saying and what can be summarised as:-
    1. Prolonged porn usage and masturbation are major causes for PE,DE,ED and PIED for generations who has access to internet than generations before.The more one does it, the more severe they get.
    2.Best thing is one can cure it by totally eliminating Porn and masturbation and all sexual fantasies that we do virtually.This happens due to our brains plasticity mechanisms.So there is a hope.
    3.Time to cure or called recovery depends upon individuals i.e. upto how much damaged they have caused to their brains and body as they all work in sinc.
    4.Anyone either single or in relationship can cure these symptoms understanding the cause of doing it and finding better habits eg.bonding with self and partner,good food, adequate sleep,rest and exercise.Those in relationships can get better results by communicating problems and finding solutions together with spouse or partner to get actual physical connections to unlearn and rewire brain signals exact opposite of what have thrown into addiction.
    5.There is no need to get anxiety or attacks or think it can't be cured.As it can be.The path is not easy but can be done and it's true.
    6.Being connected with self and God helps in this journey.Its not a destination ,it's a life long journey.

    Thanks to you again.I hope I can heal myself.
     
  18. skull67

    skull67 Fapstronaut

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    Hello bhai, don't know how, but I had a feeling that you are Indian. I have read this entire journal. I am texting you privately so that we can talk freely.
     
  19. Yes.okay sure.
     
  20. Just an update.

    I am on day 45 without FPMO.Means since past 45 days I have not even Fantasised about sexual things and am totally PM free.I have not even thought to MO. i am going through a lot of emotional and physical problems like mood swings,body aches,sleep quality ,fatigueness, but I'm must say and admit my erections are better.I get morning wood daily ,means daily.Even if I sleep in afternoon then also I get morning wood,I don't know one can call it evening wood lol .Here and there I get aroused to my wife touches and get hard.Sometimes I'm not 100% hard but it's a good one.Still not having sex just cuddle and lay down with wife to feel,care,kiss and talk.I have ejaculated twice to these cuddling in these 45 days but at other times I was successful in holding and pulling back. I have chosen this way to rewrite coz I'm in a committed marriage and other person also have emotions and wishes and deserves love and care.I hope things will get better as I continue on this journey.

    I'll never do FPMO.
     
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