How to overcome Delayed ejaculation?

Ok, firstly I'm not an expert on this topic, as I joined here only 22 days ago. So I could be wrong here, but here are my thoughts. You need to reboot your brain first and see if that helps. Hope you read about rebooting. It's when you don't watch porn, masturbate or orgasm ( no pmo) for over 30-90 days. The first week is the hardest, but later, you will run into a period of Flatline, where you won't feel horny at all. I'm currently in this stage. From what people say around here, this is normal, and you will get back your boners once you've truly rebooted. I mean I can still get semi boners now when thinking about anything sexual, but not hard ones. You truly rebooted only if you're able to get hard ones from just looking at a girl on the street, or you're being able to be excited very easily , with a raging hard on. Should take 30-90 days. Don't be scared by the numbers, it's really first week that's hard, later you get used to it, also the Flatline helps. Once you've rebooted, you should be mentally cured of your sexual problems. See if this helps. You may feel free to have sex with your gf during this time, just don't do it alone.

After this reboot, if you still think 'the way you masturbate' is causing problems, it's best to cut out on masturbation since you have a gf. or 2. Get a vagina like sex toy, or make one (see youtube, if you can't have it around in your house where your parents might find out). That way you're atleast doing it right.

 

are you sexually aroused when doing those things? I guess that's the problem here. yes, there's an erection but still you won't be able to come if you're not sexually aroused.

 

@care4ameatball , I've been there and maybe I can help you out with some ideas.

First, like Prashanna mentioned, it's important to reboot your brain. I'm not sure about 90 days without any kind of orgasm, but I definitely would advise against any kind of artificial stimulation. If it's not a real person, then, stay away from it.

Maybe you desensitized yourself. Perhaps you got the "grip of death syndrome". If you tighten your grip too much while masturbating, you may condition yourself to only orgasm with that kind of stimulation. I know I had problems with that before. If that's your case, then, really, stop masturbating for good. If you do relapse, then at least do it with the lightest touch possible.

Another thing: maybe you're just overthinking it while having sex. I remember when I had delayed ejaculation that I would reach a certain point when I would think "oh no, I won't cum, again!" And bam! I wouldn't cum no matter how hard I tried. I remember things started getting better after I thought to myself that... well... I could cum, or maybe I could not cum and both would be fine.

Finally and most important: we should remember that sex is much more than genitals and above all, sex is more of a tactile experience rather than a visual one. Porn gets you into thinking that sex has to do with vision, not touch. But it's completely the other way around. While having sex we get lots of touching, but limited visual stimulation. We need to train our brains to operate in this manner. So, while having sex, do lots of touching. Remember to kiss your lady. Focus on her more often than on yourself.

You're young. I believe you will definitely overcome this situation, man. I know I did, so you will too.

 

You just enlightened me about sex being more about touch than visual stimulus. You are so right. Thank you for saying it, I never thought of it that way.