Any tips on self-discipline?

Keep your hands off the peen.

 

Best advice I can give is make a list of your goals for this year, after you do that make a daily/weekly schedule of things you can do bit by bit to achieve what ever it is your looking to achieve. Stick to your schedule and focus on it man.... I can say that process has worked for me so far ... Best wishes and Happy New Year!

 

Here's a good video on developing self-discipline:

I need to keep watching it to remind me.

 

Seth is one of the masters of nofap. When he speaks, he is the voice of accomplishment.

 

Squats help me control urges.

 

Discipline should be a celebration. Many fail in discipline because they focus on the hardship and what they are ‘giving up’, with such drudgery...it is difficult to make any real progress. Discipline is best celebrated in the process because it is through practice that we attain better things and become someone better. It is about finding joy in the trials, because on the other side of them is immense freedom.

 

Discipline is born of the habits; first you eat in certain times of the day, then you sleep certain time of day, then you regulate other activities to your life. Start small, end big. Make a plan on paper; what habits thus what discipline will you follow, then just start following it from day one. That's how they did in the army. First morning is the worst.

 

But if you lack discipline and you have a problem with procrastinating online (like I do) you could give add-ons like LeechBlock a try.

 

I think habits are the best way to get self-discipline. Plan things at the same time everyday, and try to not miss a day.

 

Find a role model that is disciplined. Learn from him/her. For me it was my father, but there are plenty of other people to learn from.

Jocko Willink comes to mind for someone recent, he has a podcast anyone can listen to. http://jockopodcast.com/

Learn from historical figures as well. The Stoics were that immovable object of the ancient world. Combat veterans, entrepreneurs, explorers, leaders and tyrants all had some sort of discipline.

 

have some goals and plan days to achieve....i myself lazy nd suffered from PMO and wetdreams for 13 years....in last year, i got self discipline due to high goals i set for myself.......i had exams after 3 months....so i divided chapters i have to complete into months and weeks and daily schedules......in a day schedule wake up regularly at same time...divide day into study time, workout,mediation etc...busy schedule.....so you dont have time to waste on smartphone or anyother thing...like that start leading your life for few weeks...you will attain selfdiscipline

 

It might sound cliché, but meditation is useful for being aware of urges (controlling/ignoring) them and can help people with all sorts of addictive behaviour like smoking etc. I found a really good vid on youtube this morning about it and would highly recommend..

 

Hello sombrero23,
Yes i have an advice:
You have to know your WHY!
Why is it worth to do sth.?
Because you're getting closer to your goal!
You first need a goal and then always remember why it's worth the effort.

 

He is right! Always know your 'WHY?' !

But you can only develop self-discipline by, well, rewiring your brain. This is not easy and requires a bit of planning, I can assure you that. But it will be definitely worth it!

For example, I struggled with exercising, I used to visit the gym for around two times, sometimes three times a week although my schedule said that I should at least be there four times a week. However, I started with a simple 'do and reward yourself' system. I've made a promise to myself and started exercising without listening to music. Music has ever been important to me and when I was alone at the gym, I always listened to it. But I decided to make that a reward. When I was done exercising, I allowed myself to listen to music on the way back home and in the evening (a good side effect of this method was that I was much more focused during exercising, so the workout only takes around 45-50 minutes.) If music is no reward for you, just try the best reward that has ever existed - food! Food is necessary to live, and your brain knows that. The better the food, the more dopamine (the little hormones that make you do stuff) is released in your brain. As a second reward, I decided to cook myself something tasty in the evening. If I miss out a workout, I don't get a warm meal, and I really hate eating cereals or something in the evening!

I began to use an app called 'Fabulous' around three weeks ago, and I can highly recommend it. It helps me to keep track on my actions and establish habit-changing rituals. In addition to that I began to meditate as well which really made me more focused, relaxed and even happier! I don't know what exactly helped me to keep the habit going (I believe the rewards), but I am exercising every day with joy. I visit the gym five times a week and on the other two days I go out running!

But to rewire the brain, I recommend to start easy. Let your habit reach this line of automaticity. Do whatever you want to do for a short time. I am serious about short! Go out running around the block, read two pages a day, visit the gym for 10 minutes, even if it is nothing. But your aim should be to establish the habit. Most people quit their resolutions because they set their goals to high and they don't reward themselves. So if you want to exercise, looking good in one or two years is not a reward that helps you.

Last but not least let go of self discipline and willpower etc. If you weren't able last week, you won't be next week. You need to change your environment, make it easy to do your stuff. When I go out to class, I take my gym clothes with me and visit the gym after that. At the weekend I put my gym bag ready next to my door so the only thing I have to do is grab it and go, nothing more. Believe me, when you are out of the door, you don't go back into your flat and sit down on the couch! To follow my other habit, learning a language, I put the 'duolingo'-link on my desktop and the app along with the other relevant apps on the first page of my phone, so I don't miss it! To avoid fapping, I charge my phone in another room at night, so I am putting it out of reach and so on ... you will reach that automaticity in the brain and it will get easier!

That is basically it! It is hard to follow. But if you manage the first weeks, you will establish it quickly. Hope I can help you!

 

Life can be difficult. All your desires has a price you have to pay. Figure out the cost and see if you're willing to pay it. Discipline is about taking responsibility for your actions.

What happened in 2017 that you're proud of and are disappointed by? What price did you pay or didn't pay? Time can either promote you or expose you through your daily habits. A year from now you'll see that you should've done that difficult thing that you know you should've done to become the person you want to be.

 

cold showers. just do it.

 

you need to read this http://highexistence.com/how-to-ove...-defeat-the-procrastodragon-once-and-for-all/

 

You should try this. People say this one works for anything. They call it programming your subconscious mind. Idk all about that. But it actually works.

Shut your devices off 1h before sleep.
When you're about to sleep, have some ME time. Think about the things you done that day what you didn't want to do, what you should've done etc., just reflect your whole day. And imagine what you'd be doing next day if you come across similar situation etc., JUST FOCUS ON THE CURRENT DAY AND THE NEXT DAY.

Consciously programme your subconscious mind ;-) Give it a shot