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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by The Wrestler, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. Jan 2, 2018 #1
    The Wrestler

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    What are some of the ways you or your significant other have been improving?

    I have found this board to be regularly filled with so much pain and hurt. Which...I get. I mean, I don't get it because I can't get it, but I get it, you know? So here's a thread for encouraging only! Tell me the good stuff that is happening in your relationship, the little things you have noticed and are happy about, or why you love your partner!

    For example, I am really proud of me for something that happened last week. I was checking out a website, and noticed I started drifting towards a trouble area. I recognised it was because I was feeling a little down and frustrated, so I shut down my computer! I ended up talking to my girlfriend a few minutes later and I was so very grateful that I could tell her and celebrate my improvement with her. I really appreciate being able to talk to her and share my life with her, even the difficult things!
     
    The Wrestler, Jan 2, 2018
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  2. Jan 2, 2018 #2
    Kenzi

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    In 3 months my husband will be porn free for 2 years.
    As frustrating as he can be, and as much as sometimes I feel like this is the slowest journey Ever...
    We sat down and talked about everything over new years weekend.
    What changes we could make based on improvements he's made...
    And so on
    If he actually achieves this milestone.
    And while we are going to change some things, he said he likes his life currently and does not want to go backwards... Therefore he wants to continue with many of the restrictions in place, as he does not feel they are restrictions but responsible additions.
    Like a new piece of furniture, a improvement in our lives.
    I could have cried... I don't know if I've ever heard it be sweeter described.
     
    Kenzi, Jan 2, 2018
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  3. Jan 3, 2018 #3
    Hotpotts

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    It's just over a year since D day when my SO finally admitted there was a problem. 'Old habits he called it.
    I believe he has stopped watching P but still watches Psybs or fantasized BUT there have been improvements.
    He now kisses me more - only for a short while but it turns me on so much! There have been a few more I'd with me too.
     
    Hotpotts, Jan 3, 2018
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  4. Jan 4, 2018 #4
    Queenie%Bee

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    No PM for a year for my SO . Yes we are still struggling/working on the relationship part , the GOOD ? He’s so much more present in life and with ME . Like before the decade long PA . I thought we’d never get that back ! He Agreed to go back to couples counseling on a monthly bases to “check in “ . I haven’t been stuffing it down , we’ve been communicating!
     
    Queenie%Bee, Jan 4, 2018
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  5. Jan 8, 2018 #5
    TryingHard2Change

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    My wife and I came out of a rollercoaster 2.5-week time together (we had been on different continents for about 2 months prior) ..... nothing is fully solved or even that clear, BUT, we found a CSAT (I emailed on Jan 1st and we ended up seeing her on Jan 3rd!); we both like her; we both met her individually (I met with her twice in 3 days); my wife will begin seeing her weekly this week (I am in Europe now until February).


    After nearly 7 months of stalemate and being stuck-in-the-mud, this is some tangible progress that will lead somewhere --- anywhere is better than the standstill, 100% paralyzed state we were in.
     
    TryingHard2Change, Jan 8, 2018
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