so when do the urges stop

Stay strong against the urges and its builds strength for your whole life.
I don't buy the total abstinence approach. If the urges will always be there, why not try to use them? That means that sometimes you have sex or jack off or eat a hamburger and drink some beer. I'm a human being on planet earth along with a few billion others. Turning myself into a being of denial seems quite inhuman to me. But I'm not making choices for you.

 

For me the urges get worse the first two weeks and then I flatline. I'm almost six weeks in now and haven't had an urge or even an erection in almost three weeks. I actually enjoy the flatline. When I'm pmo'ing I feel like a predator. I go outside and I want to fuck every beautiful girl I see. It's frustrating because it controls my entire mind. So, the flatline is a welcome change of pass for me. I can go out now and not feel like im walking around with a loaded gun in my pants.
So, I guess it's different for everyone.
When I started this 6 week run I knew the first two weeks would be the hardest, so I deleted everything from my computer and phone that could distract me. So that means no more facebook and instagram: two many girls posting sexy pics. I blocked all porn sites and even the sites with just sexy pics of non nude females. That has helped me a lot.

 

Good job, Napionder!

Ad MW: "Instead of taking away the struggle let's learn how to embrace it, to relish it."

It's a good way to put it, this is what vipassana meditation has taught me. Well, almost. The difference is that through meditation I learn to observe urges as they come and leave. I don't struggle with them, in a sense. I just let them go.

But, of course, some improvements in intensity, frequency, etc. I hope to gain, indeed I already see some.

 

You give me hope, IGY - I think I have had one "bad urge" so far but I expect more.

 

Lol Fagdad. You find a way to fit in the masturbation thing in quite a few unrelated threads...

OK fine IGY. Just urges period, they aren't really bad at all.

 

Is this thread about urges? Perhaps urges to masturbate? Perhaps how to approach those urges? Maybe how we can develop balanced attitudes around all kinds of urges? How learning to control one urge about this might give us strength against an urge about that? Ive got an urge to go declare my stance on MO on my journal right now so I don't hijack this post about urges. I hope I don't develop any urges to tangentially try to suppress someone's opinion here.

 

Try hard enough and you could relate every thread to an infinite amount of topics with enough creativity. He asked a question specifically about when urges stop. He never asked what to do about said urges. He might not even be talking about masturbation at all. There are plenty of threads questioning masturbatory abstinence. They always roll in. Let's talk there.

 

I can only assume that "the urges" that Rocky is referring to are the urges to PMO.
MW, I feel that you and I agree on quite a lot, but it seems like we are also oceans apart on what our personal objectives are, and how to achieve those.
I defer to probably everyone else here when it comes to "flatlining", "rebooting", etc.. I have no experience with those vis a vis the PMO habit. I have only participated here for three weeks.
In my personal experience about any "urge", you can satisfy an urge or resist it, but neither of those actions will make it go away and never come back. Responding to urges of all kinds is a full time job for all humans all the time, and thus so shall it ever be.
How we deal with any urge will be based on how we view that urge. Have we decided that it is negative, positive or neutral? How does satisfying it or resisting it fit into our overall view. If I become tired of having an urge reoccur, than perhaps I need to look at how I react to that urge, and find a way to stand up to it, because it will always come back some day again, and if I embrace the "struggle" instead of let it overcome me, I am in control, and I become stronger.

 

hey bud. I was on 320 days when the urge took over. Unfortunately to my knowledge it doesn't stop.
What you need to do is continuously stay on top of it. Look up nofap academy or yourbrainonporn.com and keep reading those resources. Keep contributing to discussions on forums. Don't let your guard down. Stay on top of it.
Good luck.

 

Alright, I see your point fagdad. I guess we just need more info on Rocky.

 

Hi, I'm new here, and I think an earlier poster might have said something similar so apologies if I'm repeating anything...

I believe that part of the problem is our obsession to move away from something. Far better to move towards something instead, which replaces what you are moving away from (in this case P).

I am setting myself some life goals, things I really want to do and focus on moving towards them, rather than obsessing over when I get the next 'urge'. I'm not saying that you shouldn't put things in place to deal with the urges - of course you should - but maybe focus on things you DO want as well.