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Why are a lot of guys here anti-sex?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by DirtyDeeds, Jan 6, 2018.

  1. DirtyDeeds

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    Dirty deeds here, I was just wondering why a lot of guys here view Porn masturbation Orgasms to be in the same category as REAL SEX? Among other benefits, real sex releases oxytocin lowers blood pressure and relieves stress. Furthermore, vaginal intercourse stimulates the immune system. So my Question to you guys is: Why do a lot of dudes here discourage sex?
     
  2. truthseeker17

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    I don't think people here are against sex, as I noticed ...

    It's that people distance themselves from sex and everything invloved to it so they can rewire and reboot healthy and effective from their addiction.
     
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  3. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    I'll be honest, I haven't seen many people do that on here, but I dont doubt it happens. Can you please give some examples of the kinds of things these anti-sex people say?
     
  4. THEdally_llama

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    I'm not at all. Part of my problem is that my desire for sex also comes from the urges that I get from addiction to pornography.
     
  5. Because some of us here are not against pmo as some anti social nerds who seek to have a fat wife, 2 mediocre kids in random school, work in construction and drink jack daniels, and do bbq on sunday calling a mate or two over.

    Because some us in this world seek an existence many times higher in all aspects. Because we can and we know. Because we refuse to worship mike tyson or 50 cent as some god or be a mediocre Jon Doe chasing money all his life, listen to mozart but doesnt have the inteliggence to know anything about deep about music or maths or complex social and political dybamics, because were tired of hearing usain bolt jokes and I want to surpass him, because were tired of seeing that fame seeking bruce lee as some type of god and we want to surpass him. Because we want to succeed more than we breathe and to have the required fuel we cannot stop short in the evening drain away in unnecesary, distracting passions for the sake of a couple minutes of gorrila penetration.

    No one is anti-sex. Without sex we would not be here and we're adrenaline junkies either. Most people would give up anything anytime for a pair of panties down. Sex sells, in the animal kingdom.
     
  6. AChosenPeople

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    I personally don't stand for sex outside marriage because it contradicts with my beliefs and values. Sex itself with your wife should be ok in my opinion.
     
  7. Ub3rT1m3

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    I second this, never seen anyone post anything even remotely anti-sex? You trolling, bruh?
     
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  8. Batushka

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    I agree, have not seen it here since the short time i have been hanging out here, can only say that what i readed was that people first would fix the problem of there PMO-Addiction, before having sex again. becouse they don't want to think about P-scenes to get things done.

    correct me if i'm wrong.
     
  9. Porn Killer

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    Yeah. I’m not necessarily anti-sex. I’m just personally waiting until I am married. My reboot is not only to quit PMO but to be able to have self control sexually. But that’s just me.
     
  10. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    Yeah thats basically what I have seen as well, people wanting to abstain temporarily, but never (from what I can recall) people being actively anti-sex.
     
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  11. PMO and real sex are not the same in the sense that one is on a screen and the other is with a real person. I suppose it depends on the type of sex you're having that defines whether it is good for you (and your relationships) or not. My idea of real sex is something that you have in a real relationship, not something procured through other means.

    Again it depends on the type of sex. I haven't seen too many people discouraging healthy sex-positive relationships, but I have seen people here discourage unhealthy and empty forms of sex.
     
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  12. Onehope

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    Paying escorts, engaging in random one night stands, these are just extensions of sex and porn addiction. I speak against this reckless behavior, but if you can have safe sex with someone then theres nothing wrong with that.
     
  13. GG2002

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    Maybe you need to explain what you mean? Do you mean anti sex because they choose porn over sex or sex negative? If you are an addict porn has nothing to do with sex. And as for the second thing I see that people are intimacy and relationship focused. So it’s about sex that leads to something more.
     
  14. Just Rose

    Just Rose Distinguished Fapstronaut

    1. Because thinking in having sex in the near future is triggering
    2. Because we are trying to rewire our brains to the correct programing: that sex without love is meaningless
    3. Because hormones have to get to a normal level, a complete reboot is complete abstinence or "hard mode" for 90 days (in my opinion)
    4. Because we don't want to see people neither been seen as the objective of a sexual adventure and that's it, but if involved in a relationship to have a support and love connection with other human being
    5. Because by the moment we might be focused on self improvement, studies or work that leaves little time for a relationship.
    6. Because of our believes in matters of marriage, some people would just O when having children, others just for pleasure, some prefer waiting after marriage, others just wait a steady relationship.
    7. Because some might have trauma with couple relationships and can't establish a healthy relationship yet and maybe don't feel comfortable trying yet. It's a complicated psychological issue in which the confidence boost due to reboot helps a lot.
    That's my personal view, I hope it fits reality.
     
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  15. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    They might be roman catholic and caught up in all that paganism and dogma.
     
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  16. GG2002

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    This made me chuckle a bit. I was raised Roman Catholic and went to a catholic school and I remember in 4th grade being in a class where we were told that premarital sex was if anyone touched you where a bathing suit covered. I remember thinking this is such bs. For whatever reason I never got sucked into it. Please don’t get me wrong for many people religion is a great source of strength and comfort but it can also really mess people up sexually.
     
  17. I don't think anyone on this site is anti-sex. But the NoFap subreddit, yeah kind of in a sense. Semen retention freaks thrive there.
     
  18. Becoz a complete reboot is impossible by thinking of these useless triggerous thoughts..
     
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  19. Interesting responses. As someone who was raised Catholic I didn't run into any anti-sex attitudes. Sure the Church does not endorse premarital sex but that is not anti-sex and it's a pretty fundamental teaching amongst a lot of Christians, despite it not being widely practiced by a lot of Christians. Also if you hold any type of belief whatsoever then you follow dogma.

    “The Church holds that it is impossible to have a religion without dogmas. To say that one must have a religion without a dogma is to assert a dogma, and a dogma that needs tremendously more justification than any dogma of the Church. What is a dogma? A dogma is an idea, and in the sense a man without a dogma may be said to be a man without an idea. Dogmas there must be, just as long as there is sound thinking.” Archbishop Fulton Sheen (Moods and Truths)
     
  20. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    I don't want papists trying to teach me anything related to the topic of sex.
     

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