I don't know how much longer I can do this

For me, urges tended to progress like this:

1. Thoughts / fantasising (even if it starts with thoughts of a girl I know etc.)
2. P-subs
3. P (and stuff like chat rooms which is just as bad)

So now I stop the progression as soon as I notice a thought that is in any way lustful. It's okay if such a thought happens, just don't encourage it. Think about or do something else, leave the room, go for a walk, take a shower or do whatever you need to do to take your mind off the urge.

 

Who told you that change can be easy ?
If you can conquer your horniness, you will conquer anything.
Porn is something we want, not what we need.
I've been relapsing for 2 years already, i know its hard but i will keep trying, get your shit together bro you can do this

 

(Assuming you are not in a relationship right now) you might find your need for PMO disappears when you can have sex with another person. All you need to do is keep picking yourself up after each failure and try again. Each day without PMO might keep the addiction from growing, and eventually you will find the right person and possibly lose all interest in PMO. If you can make it three days, keep resisting for three days. That is better than giving in to the addiction and allowing it to grow worse. Also if you give in to the addiction then your probability of finding the right person is diminished due to low self esteem and low libido.

Of course I don't know your circumstances, so this advice might not apply to you.

 

Bro...just keep getting back on the wagon. I've been on this site for the last 3 months. Had several 5-10 day streaks. Relapsed probably 10 times.

Doesn't sound too great....

Until I realize that out of 90 days, I have resisted the urge 80 times!!! That's 88%! I'll take that. And it gives me confidence that I can go 90/90 for the next 3 months. Don't worry about the long run. Just keep coming back. You got this!!

 

One thing that seems to be very detrimental are triggers, I learned that I get STRONG urges when I'm alone playing videogames, anything could trigger you, you must learn your triggers and avoid them, if you feel that before bed you're bored and you must PMO, then go to bed earlier, or do some exercise in the evening so you're tired, is it in the morning? set up a routine that keeps you busy and try to slowly change how your day goes, this will help you avoid those moments in which your brain got used to receive its "dose"

 

I'm coming up on a year since I joined nofap, so I can feel your frustration. I definitely thought I would have totally kicked the habit by now. The most important thing that keeps me going is viewing my progress in a positive way. I do my best to not shame myself when I relapse. Instead I think about how much I would have Pmo'd during that streak If I wasn't doing nofap. Also avoiding binge sessions and multiple relapses is extremely important.

In your case I bet the last two years you've spent way less time pmo'ing than the two before nofap! That's how you have to look at your progress to not get caught in a viscous cycle of negative and self doubting thoughts.

Best of luck, You and I know that you can

 

I feel exactly the same. Relapsed after 20 days. PMO’d twice. Keep going, and turn you anger and frustration AGAINST it. It’s has poisoned us humans for way too long. Time to destroy it!

This is just the same with me. Thanks for helping me. No video games for me when I’m alone. This is a sort of eye opener for me. Thanks!

 

Changing your routine and habits might seem very hard at first, but it's your brain that hates change, it knows that if you're doing your triggering habit and that you will think about PMO, the brain hates change but if you manage to change your routine your brain will forget about PMO, it will be far easier to fight the addiction since it's the habits that makes us PMO the most, habits break us, not lust

 

I would say that if it feels impossible...in a way that’s good! That means its real and working in these times. The struggle however that youre feeling inside needs to be reflected outside. When youre feeling like its impossible, what do you end up doing? Are you creating a post? Reading a book? Talking to friends? Lifting weights? Going for a walk? That struggle inside must also be seen outside at those times, that is what accountability is. We have a tendency to have that struggle stay secret and private, playing video games or turning to drugs and alcohol, but instead we should turn to the things where we can interact and create.

 

Keep trying. That's what you should do. That's what's in your best interest isn't it? You can choose to feed the addiction or get rid of it. How hard you try is also a choice, but right now you have the choice to continue with nofap or not. I'm gonna go right ahead and tell you to continue. I don't know you but the fact that you're on this site is reasonable evidence that you should continue

 

As how hermit ninja described it, for so many of us it starts with a fantasy. And there so many triggers for fantasy:
Attractive people on the street
Music videos
Films
Past pmo experiences

But i noticed often that the more addicted you are, that 1......2.....3 from fantasy to urge to relapse becomes 123. And its hard to throw urself into fantasy and fight urges. Or sit there one hand on ur crotch one hand with ur phone hoping to not relapse with nothing but urge in ur mind.

Hence... altho we ALL know including non pmo addicts how good it feels to fantasize, we as pmo addicts dont have the luxury. We cant. Coz its all become one thing for us and one second u check out someone out, next minute ur updating ur tracker back to 0.

Be careful with what u see on ur facebook, on tv, everywhere. Stay present and dont fantasize. Dont open the door because you know that when it opens u cannot control..... what you become.

 

True so sad it goes on autopilot by then

 

Don’t fight it too hard, just let it flow, but understand pmo isn’t an option anymore. Take it a day at a time, then one day, you’ll stop stressing about avoiding it and you’ll get to live. But you can’t use P anymore, from here on out, if you do you’ll just be in this cycle but you know the way to get out. But when urges come, remember what you can and shouldn’t do, stay strong and vigilant, never give an inch, never get comfortable and take it a day at a time